Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
It IS complicated! Best to get it straight from the horse's mouth!
One footnote here about the kids: If you have a child that is deemed disabled, they can get disabled survivor benefits which will continue beyond high school and beyond the age of 19. My younger son is autistic and we were instructed by Social Security to file a claim for him, and he receives those benefits. When I die, they will recalculate his benefits based on my earnings and contributions which would be higher than Cliff's. They must be diagnosed as disabled before leaving school though. My son was a senior in high school when Cliff died, so he was eligible, but because he was over 18 I didn't receive any benefits for caring for him, and his benefits are just a portion of the household expenses. Still, every little bit helps!
It's so complicated it's like algebra to try and figure it out on your own. Talk to Social Security and ask a zillion questions. Every situation is a little different, so the right answer for one person is not necessarily the right answer for the next one.
My daughter asked me about drawing my x-husband's S.S., since he died at the age of 62 and had never drawn on his. It ruffled my feathers a bit -- but it has given me a greater S.S. income than I would have gotten otherwise.. (He never had paid any child support in all the years we were divorced -- so I'd call this PAY BACK TIME... smile..)
Another note -- J.R. had never signed up for Medicare when he completely retired, thinking he wouldn't need it.. Well, he only had 8 months after retirement to sign up for it -- or be penalized a percentage for the rest of his life.. We had no idea at that time that he would die in the next year and a half.
I'd advise you to go to your local S.S. office and have them show you what you are eligible for, etc. In five years, it might be a completely different amount. I bristle every time THEY call this an "entitlement program" -- as we worked for many years, having it taken out of our pay checks without any choice..
Well, ad nauseum -- off my soapbox... Nancee
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