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so what is the purpose?

ToddiesGirl
ToddiesGirl
I have been living in this nightmare of grief now for 18 weeks. I struggle every day to find a reason to go on living. I often hear members talking about finding a purpose but I have not heard what their purpose is. If you have found your purpose, could you share it? It might help us to see what we are looking for.

Being a member here and writing all the time has gotten me this far, but I don't see what the future has to offer.

I care about all of you and value your input.
Julie
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deleted_user
I'm in the same boat as you are. I lost my husband on July 25th after 30 yrs of marriage. Am so sorry for your loss dear but guess we have to help each other get through this plus give ourselves so room to understand why they have to leave us like this and get on. I am feeling the same feelings , can't get myself out of the bed, at this point am sleeping so much it's unbelievable. Guess the sleeping part is to make the pain go away. That's the only peace you get from what just happened. My husband was gone in two days no indication he was sick. But yeah we have a purpose here on this earth and have to fulfill it. Know it's hard to listen to now I know it is for me but I'm a fighter have fought most of my life because I have problems physically. My husband didn't want to die he was in the hospital and his heart gave out. He was only there for 2 days then it happened. I hope you can understand it was time for him to go home that he had accomplished what he was put here to do. I can't wait to see him and my Dad again. I saw the title of your post and thought to myself "that's exactly how I feel but no one is going to understand that but someone who has or is going through it. The pain inside is horrible and I hope you and I can gradually understand a little more as time goes on. If you would like to talk to me I'd be more than happy to!!!
Nicker07
Nicker07
OH gosh please do not beat yourself up thinking you have to have a purpose at this point.

I love Martha's purposes very much but want to add

Your first purpose is to take care of yourself:physically, emotionally and try spiritually....At times beings I did not grow up in a GOD fearing household I had to fight to believe GOD has a purpose for me, and realize I may not know it truly now or maybe never but I am here for that purpose so I figured I might as well dig in and fight to make it a happier existence.

SO please take it easy on yourself and give yourself time to let those beginning steps fall into place alittle more...

A big hug
Community LeaderShrn
Shrn
As silly as it may sound, my purpose found me. I spent a couple years even after the acute pain of losing my husband dissapated wondering why I was on this earth. Then I looked at my life as I was living it and realized what gave me the most satisfaction and it was the time I shared my story of survival to you. So I feel this is my purpose at least for today. Sharon