Oh, Janice, we don't know how to live without them. We just get through the day and try again tomorrow. Sometimes getting through the minute was all I could handle. The only advice I can share is do what you feel is right at that exact moment. Share what feels right and be kind and patient with yourself. The days are hard and the nights worse. The good news is that you can make it and I know that because I did.

I lost my husband to lung cancer over 6 years ago. I came here not knowing who I was without the title of his wife. Now I know myself, I'm strong and capable. I'm happy again and I'm here to listen to you and help you heal. Sharon

I lost my husband to a sudden heart attack while he was out on a motorcycle ride. he kissed me and our son and said he would be back in 30 mins. I would not have wanted him to suffer through awful cancer but I wish I could have been holding him when he left. I hope that someday you will find comfort that in the last moment of his life he knew he had his loving wife by his side. I am sure that meant the world to him. its 4 months for me and I don't know how to live without him either. like shrn said...u just get up and keep going...go to bed and do it all over again the next day. functioning gets easier...but missing him doesn't.

Thank you both for the words of encouragement.

I have to agree with what Karatxmo said ... and it may be one of the most meaningful things I've read here ...

" Functioning gets easier...but missing him doesn't."

Janice, you have gone through a tremendously difficult time. And coming to Daily Strength was a very good decision. May you find some comfort in the words of others here.

My husband transitioned July 27 from lung cancer. It was so sad seeing him waste away. He died in our bed also and I never stop sleeping there. It seemed to bring me closer to him. He was strong to the end. The night before he walked up the stairs and got into the bed not saying a word. I believe he was preparing to leave me. That Saturday morning at approximately 9:30 am I was downstairs and when I Came upstairs he was gone. I started pressing on his chest and calling his name, but I knew he was absent from his body and present with the Lord. I take comfort in that he has a brand new body with no chemo, radiation and an enormous amount of medication, that he is not suffering or in pain. I still love him and miss him dearly. I continue to pray for all of us as we try to live our lives on this new journey. I trust that the Lord will never leave us nor forsake us and that gives me hope. I don't know of another human being that can do it for me and for you. God Bless us all.

Janice, Sorry for your loss. The way your husband greeted eternity is comforting. My husband had a smile on his face for hours as my friends and I stayed with my husband's body until he was taken away. They kept telling me,"He is at peace," as I screamed my head off.
Our 45th anniversary was the first event in my life without him, since I was a teenager.
My husband's absence looms large everyday. How I handle it each day varies from mindless activity to sleeping my way through it. Exercise helps me a bunch. Everybody here has their coping methods. I read what others do and it helps me muy mucho.

I also like and agree with the statement 'functioning gets easier but missing them doesnt". I am at 11 months and although I have now reached a point where I am basically functioning per normal the missing I always keep close to my heart. I run across trigger regularly which bring back a memory and momentary sadness but the pain and sadness doesnt have a grip over me it once did. Now if I need to cry I cry and can move on. I see it as a healthy tool in healing. At 9 weeks your pain is still very fresh and raw. Be gentle on yourself. Dont set unrealistic expectationS. Take things one day at a time. I am so so sorry for your loss. Gerald

Bob also died 9 weeks ago from lung and liver cancer ( he never smoke in his life) the last two weeks of his life still haunt me, the downward spiral was mind boggling. People tell me I am making progress, either that or I am a very good actor in front of others. My condolences on your loss, cancer is a true monster.

I lost my husband 2 yrs ago. And I miss him a lot. He was my best friend. I also had to leave FL since I couldn't find a job and I had no family down there. Since that day he died I just go one day at a time. It was sudden and unexpected. I was in shock for a week or two. Cried a lot too. You will never get over it but you learn to live with it. I talk to him and still cry at times. Remember one day you will see each other again. That is another thing that keeps me going. As each day goes by it's a day closer to being with him. We all have our ways of dealing with death. It's all normal. Cause we are all different.
God Bless!

The same thing happened to me.. Hubby in my arms also, at home after long bout with cancer. 47 1/2 years married. . I cry a lot but still manage to laugh a lot and enjoy family. Today slippery roads I am not used to driving, one car wont start, darn I need him. I go from being hurt, lonely, angry, happy, up and down like a roller coaster ride. Still not even real, just keep going on and trusting God.