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Sleepless nights equal tear filled days....

Kimberlina
Kimberlina

Six months into this journey and I have figured out not sleeping well at night make for emotional and tear filled days.  After sleeping in the same bed for 30 plus years you kinda get used to someone always being there. Even when Jim or I would go out of town we had trouble sleeping. When he first died I asked the doctor for something to sleep easier.... well I called to get my refill like I always do every 30 days, but this time they told me I need to come in for an appointment because my regular doctor is out on maternity leave.  So I told them I would call back and check my schedule. Really it is a funding issue. I tried for the last couple of nights to not use any sleep aid (I still need something) I tossed and turned and was just so anxious about sleeping. Kinda like when people who quit taking meds because they say they feeling better now.  Needless to say I am calling the doctors office for an appointment this morning...

vwidow
vwidow
I read sleepings pills are THEE most dangerous drug you can take. That even a couple a year can increase mortality risk. Do you want to die just so you can sleep? Maybe try a natural sleep aid. Beer(hops), valerian, or what not Camomile. Sorry if this offends you, just wanted to warn you.
Kimberlina
Kimberlina
The pill I take is a anti anxiety pill, not a sleeping pill. I research any medications I am prescribed to the fullest. Thank you for your concern. No offense taken you are just a caring person.
Kimberlina
Kimberlina
Thank you again vwidow. I have been researching even more on the meds and I am going to go into the doctor only now to see how I am doing in the self care department not for more meds. I am trying to go natural my daughter had mentioned the sleepy time tea. Going out to get some now.
Btlcrzr
Btlcrzr
I know exactly what your going thru as i am on my 4th mos.since i lost my husband,i too rely on anti anxiety pills which put me to sleep.lets just it gets better to where we wont need any meds.hugs
StanToronto
StanToronto
I had the same problem when my wife died, not getting to sleep until 7 am. Then after reading positive reviews on Weber Super Sleep, I gave a try. Within 3 days my normal sleep rhythm was restored to normal.

This Weber stuff isn't some sort of sleep-inducing drug. It contains three natural hormone enhancing ingredients: 1. Melatonin, a sleep inducer; 2. 5htp which is a serotonin enhancer, and 3. L-Theanine, which is serves to smooth out the rough edges of jangled nerves. After two years, I still use it. And sometimes when I awaken around 4 am, knowing that I will not get back to sleep, one tablet will give me another three hours sleep. It might not work for everyone, but it has really worked great for me!
Uniz
Uniz
My husband passed away 3 yrs ago from a sudden heart attack. 4 months later I wasn't feeling well. I wasn't sleeping and I just couldn't take it anymore. I went to the dr. They thought I was having a stroke. My blood pressure was extremely high, I had extreme anxiety and depression. I still to this day need to take sleeping aids anxiety meds and depression meds. When I don't have them I don't sleep well at all. I go to bed late and am up early. I also have a pillow that my daughter made out of a couple of my husband's shirts that I have on his side of the bed and I put my arm on it as if he were there.