Wendi, we've ALL felt this way at one time or another in our grief process. Does it define our life? I don't think so, although it would be easier to just go back to sleep and NOT take on the day-to-day struggles.

When my children share their day-to-day strives with me.....I get it.....I care but geeezzzz, do they have any idea what it feels like to have lost your partner, your mate, your other half? I wouldn't wish this loss on anyone, certainly not my children.

It's up to us to take care of EVERYTHING now and our energies have been sapped.....taken away from us.....and, to do one-more-thing would simply turn me to dust right now!

I'm writing this from work and I swear I've lost all my motivation and energy. Thankfully, this feeling doesn't last forever and maybe tomorrow will be a better day for all of us!.

I totally understand how you're feeling and I'm sorry!

Roz

Hang in there Wendi . . I know you are sick of hearing these words!! Grrrr . . I keep telling myself everyday "hang in there sweetie", it's gonna get better. Some days are certainly better than others (but remember I'm almost a 16 months), but I still have pity pot days that I don't want to get out of bed. I have the broken leg, isolated (for now) and I just find it difficult to face the day of chores ahead that used to be easy, not so easy now. I then get to look forward to a day with my leg elevated, watching mindless tv or sitting here on DS. It can be depressing. However, with this said, I'm getting ready to move on into a new chapter of my life which is very exciting. The point? I kept hanging on, I kept putting one foot in front of the other, even when all odds seemed to be against me . . I kept getting up out of that damn bed and made the best of a horrid situation. It's now starting to pay off. I know that you will see the light before long if you will just keep holding on. Rant all you want girl. Just know that you are not alone and there is hope at the end of the tunnel of grief. It's not easy, but you can do this!! Hugs, D

Oh wendimac, I feel your pain. Every time I wake up it's like finding out he's gone all over again. I lost my husband so suddenly about 3 months ago and I still feel like he's just around the corner or just in the other room. Every time I wake up or have a trigger it's like finding out again that he's gone. Just the realization several times a day is so challenging.

I don't know when this will slow down but I am glad we have found this group of others who have gone this road before us to share what they have experienced. I am grateful for a glimpse of the road ahead even though we each take our own individual path. And to know we are not the only one who feels this way along the way.

I am right beside you...I spend most days in bed with no energy or want to do anything, when I do finally get up and go I am sad all the time so my only place I feel comfort is in my bedroom. That is where I have all my pictures and his ashes...I keep asking why me why me....I know they say only the good die young but that doesn't work for me...I need him and want him so bad the pain is at times unbearable...There is know cure for grief and no time limit on it either...Its easy to say it will get better but I also feel that after 4 months it seems to only get worse...This site has helped me to share with those who really do get it as unless you have lost someone such as a spouse you can't imagine the pain and it is so real. I feel my heart is breaking....

Wendi

Im sorry you are feeling so much pain. Since I have lost my husband it seems like all of my stresses have increased and there is no end in sight. My heart is broken and my life is forever changed. I don't want it, I didn't ask for it, I want it to all be over and when I think about the fact that it will never be over I plunge into my bed and cry. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy ever. I get so mad that others don't get it. Im not going to say hang in there because thats not enough to just hang on. If you're like me... the life boat SUNK. Think of what your husband might have done if he were still here, write things down to see them on paper and tackle one thing at a time and if thats too much then start over and try again the next day. Thinking of you
Lisa

Wendi...I understand....it is like Groundhog Day every day. I have had so many bad triggers this entire summer....hopefully I will have a break for awhile.

I think the Prozac is starting to kick in and I love my therapist....I am seeing him twice weekly for the time being.

I think of you and worry about you all the time. Please hang in there.
Love
Jen