Widows & Widowers Support Group
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I am back at work today but have been deathly sick the last two days. I started feeling feverish and a tickle in my chest and throat Monday and by Tuesday I was fighting a high fever with coughing and sneezing the whole nine yards.
I rarely get sick but when I do it usually kicks my ass. This is the first time in 21 years however that I have been so sick and also been so alone. You see I'm usually a big baby when I am sick and Amy was grateful that wasn't too often. But when I was she was always there to comfort me. She would come home from work to check on me and since she worked just a couple blocks from our home she would check on me quite often. She would make me soup or whatever I wanted. If I had a fever she would put a cold towel on my head and stroke my sweaty hair.
Her just being there made the whole difference and I actually think it hastened my illness.
This time all I could think about while I was shivering under several blankets is how alone I felt and how her touch could make me feel so much better. I am truly alone now. ~Pete
I rarely get sick but when I do it usually kicks my ass. This is the first time in 21 years however that I have been so sick and also been so alone. You see I'm usually a big baby when I am sick and Amy was grateful that wasn't too often. But when I was she was always there to comfort me. She would come home from work to check on me and since she worked just a couple blocks from our home she would check on me quite often. She would make me soup or whatever I wanted. If I had a fever she would put a cold towel on my head and stroke my sweaty hair.
Her just being there made the whole difference and I actually think it hastened my illness.
This time all I could think about while I was shivering under several blankets is how alone I felt and how her touch could make me feel so much better. I am truly alone now. ~Pete
As far as dealing with colds and other such stuff at home, I totally understand. You just have to work through it. When you have companionship for many years or decades, it's really tough to be sick alone, but there are millions of single people who do exactly that all the time.
We hurt only because we are used to the loving care of our mates, but we can adjust simply because it's what we have to do.