you have to do what is in your heart. Myself,i would be there to protect my things, but stay in side with the doors and blinds closed to avoid contact with them. If they push for a confrontation , just call authorities and have them escorted off your property. ITs sad what we must deal with on top of losing our soul mates. But they also will have to face their creator in the end, as do the rest of us.

If you are going to have a confrontation, I would put the things on the porch, let them know they are there, and make an excuse why you can't be there. Good thing they don't have access to the inside of the home. You just don't know. My mother always said that death brought the "best" out in some people.

Comming to get "their stuff". Did they leave things of theirs at the house? Was there a will that left them specific stuff? If there are agreeded upon articles have them boxed and ready on the porch. Do not leave your home giving them access to "enter" without you being there. Have someone of support to you there with you when they arrive and just incase there is any conversation rehearse what you would like to say. Be prepared. Only you know what lies in your heart and on your mind. If you feel an need to finalize your relationship with them by giving them a piece of your thoughts then do so, but again..be prepared.
It is so sad that many have had to deal with these issues. I hope this resolves it for you and you can go on with your grief and life.

Wasn't this worked out with the lawyers? I would consult with the attorney, and see whether one of the lawyers or one of their paralegals can be present with you in the house. I would stay in the house and not let them in, but let them know that you and a representative from your lawyers is with you. That way they know there is a legal witness to everything and they will be less likely to start anything.

If they do try to start anything, call the police, and have a copy of the settlement agreement handy. You are legally as well as morally in the right, and they probablyt know that, but just in case, be prepared to show the police.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Sending you Big Hugs, Martha

I would stick around. Maybe have someone stay with me in the house until they leave. I wouldn't trust them in the house alone.

I am in the stay and have someone with you group.

Hugs, Holly

That is your house. You can let them in but have someone with you so there is no confrontation. Maybe there won't be You have to think positive. but also take care of yuorself.

I would stay but avoid confrontation. Get someone else to deal with them outside.

I also think you should stay, but really try to have someone with you in case they attempt to come in. Good luck!

I would stay...but having said that...I think I would attempt to "take the high ground"...and not have the "stuff" outside. Fix a pot of tea or coffee and something baked. Not reinforce the negativity...or engage...instead let them know how much that they must be missing their Dad, too. Set the "mood" of the encounter.

An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.
Ghandi

An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.
Ghandi
I am sorry I had not heard this before, I have committed it to memory.
Taking the high road is always the best. You retain your dignity in doing so. Sometimes it is thankless and you live with that lump in yout throat for the things you wanted, needed to say. It is such a shame when things get to this point.

I definately would stay but make sure someone is there with you. I like the idea about putting things outside so they don`t even have to come in your house. Hugs Lu Ann

I have moved everything they agreed to accept to take, 9 1/2 page full of just stuff - most junky stuff but my lawyer had me put anything I was going to get rid of anyway in the pile (hes seen it before they usually take it all - they did). So its on the covered porch, tarped.
They are to sign an agreement they will accept this and never come back on me again. They wanted to come in 12 days after he died & take all of what was their dads.

I will have people here on the day they come, I can not decide if I want to be here or just leave. I am leaning to not being here, that way they can not confront me cuz if they do I am planning on blasting them good. SO if I stay away I won't regret anything I said, yet I sure would like to but I think the advice of Ghandi will make me the better person. We made an agreement they could no longer come in my home, or garages etc. Only on the porch to get the stuff.

I am so sorry you are having to deal with this.

I would stay at the house. I would also have other people there...more than one...and even a police officer if possible.

With you not there there is the chance they might try to "bully" or "run amok" on someone else. I think your presense might keep that from happening. You do not have to go outside.,.,.but be on the property.

I am also going to suggest that you have one person there with a video camera or able to video on the cell phone in case it gets out of hand...then you have on tape exactly what occurred. It also might makethem think twice if they get out of hand and and someone starts taping it. I would not bring it out unless they started something.