I sold my husbands Blazer last October, 4 months before he died... it sat in driveway for about 2 years. It was sold to a church member, so I see it everytime I go to church.
everybody borrowed it...and run it down. couldn't keep keeping it up for other people. He got so mad that i did that.

Roby hadn't driven the pickup in over a year. It needs work, he kept wanting me to get it fixed for him. I told him as soon as he was able to drive we'd fix it. I didn't want family members to borrow it, so didn't fix it.
I would like this lady to buy because she lives far away and I wouldn't have to see it. I think it'd break my heart to see someone else driving it and we live in such a small town.

I know it's hard to let go of it but, it should give you some pleasure to know that the buyer really needs it. You don't need it or the added expense.......maybe you could by a piece of jewelry ( like a widows ring) with the money. Stay strong.

What an interesting coinsidence because I had a AAA installing a new battery into my Matty's Jeep. The battery is gone because it is not driven for a long time, but I cannot sell it.
I know it is not logical, and wasteful, but I cannot let it go yet. So much associated with this Jeep! we always took road trips, long distance alllowed heart to heart conversations, relaxed unhurried time with each other. I need to start thinking now, today,tomorrow, but past is still holding me strong.
Someday soon, I will get stronger, and more decisive to move on.

I know what you mean about wanting your husbands truck sold to the lady that lives far away. My husband gave his brother our boat. His brother is about to have it put in the water for the season and keep it in the boat club we belonged to together. I know my husband thought he was doing something good by giving it to his brother, but I am not so sure. It is big and I think my brother-in- law is not comfortable handling it, just keeping it because he feels like he has to and he thinks I want to still go on it. Truth be told, I don't want to be on it without my Mike and I wish he would just sell it...

I'm waiting for my brother who lives in WI to come and get my dh pick-up truck. Its a 98 dodge dakota with 78K miles on it, and my brother could surely use something that is better then the truck he is currently driving. I'm also giving him my 2000 chevy venture minivan to sell, so that he can make a few bucks off of that for himself. I have a new suv, and one person doesn't need 3 vechicles

i have a beautiful p/u that i no longer need. the thought of selling it - kills- me. i also have her car which i have driven about a hundred miles this past year - that am paying ins on,licence, new battery. in reality - they should both be gone.
what is hard for us to let go = costs us alot of money...

It is hard to give up their things. just remember that you don't have to if you don't want to.

I sold all his toys within the first few months. My feeling was that he wouldn't want everything depreciating and I could use the money. It was hard to let them go, but what was I gonig to do with a boat, camper, pick up truck, utility trailer, sound equipment, and a 4wheeler. It was just too much for me. I did keep my van and his Kia. I kept the Kia for about a year and realized that I wasn't driving it and it was getting to the point it needed a paint job. So I sold it too.

For some reason the small things are more important to me than the big things. I still keep his toothbrush in the bathroom along with his razor. I had his ties made into a quilt and I held onto his drumset.

Nessie from KY

Jim had a 51 Chevy pick-up and it was his work in progress. It was even at his funeral and all the men went out to look at it. Well it sat and sat and finally my daughter wanted to buy it. We negotiated a price and her owning a repair business it was picked up on a flatbed tow truck. As soon as I saw it on the flat bed going down the street I cried. I cried for the fact that he would not ever be able to finish his beloved chubby Chevy. My daughter will finish it for him. Of that he would be proud.

everytime i go anywhere.... here is that Blazer..... and i cry.....i would have kept it for me, but everyone jumped i it, drove it, tore it up.....it was gone the whole 1st year he was sick... I had to buy another car, as they wouldn't return it, they did when the plates were up.....then all these tickets came in,, that I have to pay.....

Boy, I remember this so well. I couldn't even look at my dh's suburban for months but knew I had to sell it at some point. Luckily, my son, who is a lawyer, said he'd sell it to someone privately and I'd never have to see it again.

One thing that helped was that he took a picture of the truck with Rick's whistles and things still hanging from the rear view mirror, just as if it was still his. I know that sounds counter-intuitive, but I know I have a picture of it if I ever need to see it, but I don't HAVE to.

To give it to a family member would have been too much to handle. That's not even a good idea if nobody dies.

Totally understand about the boat, btw. That would really get to me. So sorry you have to see it doing things that you can no longer enjoy the same way.

Our youngest son ended up with his dad's truck and it was hard for a long time--every time I heard it drive up in the driveway it felt like Steve pulling in--but I knew I didn't need to keep it and it felt more right to let him have it than let a stranger have it. I kept our boat because he loved it so much and the kids all wanted me to--they wanted to have it available to use in the summer time--the problem with that is that no one wants to really help keep it up--cleaning, insurance, maintenance, covering for the winter and uncovering in the spring. Our youngest son came and winterized the motor the last two winters because I kept at him--but other than that it's pretty much left to me to uncover it and clean it and keep the insurance and maintenance up. It's a big boat and takes some time and effort to clean--and I haven't even uncovered it this year yet. Truth be told, it doesn't feel right out on it without him there anyway. When I think about selling it my heart sinks because I know how much he loved it--but I'm not sure it makes sense to keep it and let it sit there so much. We only took it out twice last year--and it needs a new propeller this year--one more expense. My head tells me I need to let it go but my heart hasn't been able to so far. So, I understand exactly what you are feeling. Whatever you end up doing I hope it's the right thing for you. Hugs
Wanda

Does this ever touch home with me. I have so many "boy" toys, 3 pickup trucks, pontoon boat, 4 wheeler, and the list just goes on. I have been really struggling with what to do. I could use the money and I am talking some major bucks with all that I have, yet my heart grieves that I will be losing one more "thing" that was such a part of my husband. I did sell the tractor and that wasn't so bad. I have had one of the trucks up for sell and just added another and the boat to the list. Its tough any way you look at it. My heart goes out to you. It was 7 months yesterday that my husband passed so it is still so fresh. I wish you peace.

I had a major breakdown when I saw my husband's truck drive away, my son in law bought it, but it just broke my heart all over again, piece by piece he is gone. This was the first major breakdown I had had since the funeral in front of my girls. I try to be strong for them even though they are adults. It is a mama thing.