Hang in there Deb. If it has been going on for 2 weeks and nothing has happened, odds are pretty good nothing is going to happen. You have the option of calling the police, but the risk is they might think you've snapped. I'm sure someone here at D/S has some kind of experience in this. Me, The Christian pastor training in me would have me to use my authority in Christ Jesus and command all evil to leave my house now in the name of Jesus. But you have to believe. By the command, anything not evil doesn't have to leave. And I'd be asking our Father in the name of Jesus to send His angels to come and protect me. That all worked for me recently when I was stupid and went camping in a remote spot with just me and my dog. It protected me from the bear stalking me for about 2 hours. Another option is to take the kids and go get a hotel room if you have no one to call for a place to stay a day or two. That's all I got, other than know I will be praying for protection upon you and yours. ~~~ Scottie

I understand the feeling about being afraid in your own home. I too have become the same way since my husband passed away. He could have been away on a business trip and I could have been alone in the house and it didn't bother me. But knowing that he will never be back again. My mind wanders. And then I start thinking. And then when I start thinking I start worrying. And then I become afraid also. I do have alarms on my house. And I find that I am Army myself in now. Which I never did before. I have my husband's ashes in our bedroom also. I still can't believe that's what's left of 31 years. I'm a very spiritual person. When my husband was still alive we used to discuss the afterlife a lot. And we always told each other that we have to do something if one of us should pass away just to let the other one know that we are there. The night my husband passed away I believe he came to me. I had left the hospital about 1:30 a.m. totally exhausted running on about 4 hours sleep in 3 days. I was in my kitchen feeding my dogs. I sensed something behind me. As I was getting ready to turn around I felt a very faint touch on the back of my right shoulder. As I looked I didn't see anyone or anything. But I verbally said okay Bob cut it out I know it's you! And then as I turn back to what I was doing on the counter I thought to myself wait a minute for him to be here that means he's no longer there. It was about 3 330 in the morning by that time. I then went to bed with the phone tucked under my chin. By 7:15 a.m. I received a phone call from the hospital . They said that his nurse was trying to reach me during the night and that my husband was not doing well and they didn't think he was going to make it through the morning. I told them there was no phone call other than the one I just received from them. I checked all incoming calls will text messages and there was nothing from the hospital. By 8:08 a.m. he was gone. A few days later I was checking my voice messages and there was a message that did come in the morning that he passed away. But it never showed up on incoming calls. So I believe that he came to me when I was in the kitchen. And did not want me to drive back to the hospital. I did find some comfort in that . Please don't be afraid. Embrace it. Because I'm sure he loves you. And wants you to know that.

I was never too brave . A month after Bob passed I had a security system installed and still have it twelve years later. Somehow it makes me feel secure. It's worth the bill every month for peace of mind. Also, neighbors are close by.
Your dogs are good company. Last but not least, prayer gives me comfort. and I'll include you in my prayers , Deb. Love and Hugs, Dolores

When I got like that, I would leave every light in the house on. My electric bill was astronomical, but for a time that's what I needed to do. Friends wanted me to get a gun to protect myself, but I was not comfortable with that idea. Finally, they got me a can of pepper spray which I kept on the bedside table just in case. I can't get pepper spray where I live (it's not legal to have it in England), so when I have had to be alone in the house I have kept a can of wasp spray on the nightstand. Wasp spray shoots several feet and will incapacitate someone long enough to get away. It's safer to have around than a gun and it's inexpensive.

It is possible your anxiety over not having scattered your husband's ashes are what's stirring up your fearful emotions. I don't think your husband would be trying to make you upset or fearful. I did have odd stuff happen around the house and felt Cliff's presence many times, but it was not a feeling of fear but of reassurance that I had. Perhaps taking care of the ashes will help.

I got a lot of scammer calls trying to sell me a security system shortly after Cliff died. That scared me. I think they were trying to figure out if I had a system so I could be robbed. I always told them I already had a security system and had it for years. Some women have found it useful to put a pair of their husband's old boots by the door so that it looks like a man still lives there. I also left Cliff's recording on the answering machine. It freaked out the people who knew him and knew he was dead, but it kept the creeps at bay. (Plus I could call it sometimes just to hear his voice again).

I hope some of these replies are helpful.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

I have had these feelings since my husband's passing. I was never scared until he was gone. Now I rarely sleep and if I am extremely tired I will start with the light off and then the light on. A simple "night light" won't do. I decided that those give off too much of a shadow. Weird I know... I seem to sleep better during the day if I can sneak in a nap. That doesn't happen often. I find myself talking to my husband asking for strength and his guidance. I too am surprised at my anxiety level. I don't think your husband would be doing something to frighten you or give you that uneasy feeling. I do believe our loved ones stay around us. Maybe try to have something of his close to you during those times when you feel uneasy. Hugs to you

There is an old saying from where I came from. When the survivor gets scared after the death of a loved one, it means the dead is trying to push you to move forward by scaring them so they are distracted by different feelings other than the sorrow. I don’t know if there is any truth to that but that’s what they say,,

Have you considered seeing a medium? Maybe your husband is trying to connect with you. I see a very good medium. It is extremely comforting to me and to our loved ones who have passed over,to commnunicate those things that were left unsaid. Or they simply want to tell us they are ok and they want us to find happiness again.

Take care. May you find peace.

Sometimes I sleep cross-ways in the bed, with the lights all on, on top of the comforter and with lots of pillows. While I was gone on my trip, my son said he found my front door unlocked. Nothing was out of place or missing. Kind of spooky weird. I keep a metal baseball bat under my bed, I think it goes back to my LH's Little League days. I am going to check on some housing in the Midwest on Monday. It's like a morgue here most of the time.

Thank you everyone for your replies. It stopped. I don't know what was going on but I said lots of "if anything evil is in this house I rebuke you in the name of Jesus" type of stuff. I also said, " Tony if that's you, you're scaring me so maybe stop for now."
A few months ago my fire alarms started going off in the middle of the night. First I looked for a fire and there was nothing. I tried taking out some batteries..I turned the power to the house off and on (in the basement! in the dark!), each thing would work for a bit and then the alarms would go off again. Finally, after an hour I turned all of the power off and went with a flashlight and unplugged them from the main electrical line until I found the three culprits. I was never scared. I was mad that I was doing this alone but not scared (my dogs were beyond upset, of course, as it was so so LOUD!). Now I wonder about that experience. I read that this can happen if the fire alarm gets dusty. But 3 at the same time in the middle of the night?? Just to be clear I mean the alarms were all going off very loud..not the beeping of a battery being low. So now I am thinking that maybe Tony said "well, I set off the fire alarms and you didn't know it was me so I guess I need to give you tingles and the feeling that I'm watching you." Who knows. LIke Emptyinside I do believe in this stuff...somewhat anyway. The whole thing, however, could definitely be my anxiety about spreading the ashes. Our one and only conversation about it went like this:
Tony: I want my ashes to be buried by Fred (our family dog who is buried in a lovely spot overlooking our lake).
Me: No. We are not burying you by the dog. In the yard. No.
Tony: Well you don't get to pick.
Me: Actually I do.
And then we laughed. But we never had a serious conversation about spreading his ashes. I hate this. I feel ready (I'm going to keep some in a small urn with a candle to be mixed with some of mine and spread when I die). I don't know. It's all so upsetting. But at least I'm no longer scared.

Deb, I'm so glad you are no longer scared. Honestly, I don't know much, wonder how I ever survived some of my grief periods. Never knew a person could hurt like I hurt. I mean, I tore the inside of my house apart just to make it my own --- my own mess that is. I just had to get rid of the reminders. Did Juani's ashes with her son, son's wife, and 3 grandkids, ages 4 to 10. On Lion's Rock, her son's favorite place, the Gkids put ashes in their helium balloon baskets and watched as one said, "Look, Grandma's flying to heaven". That I will remember. Really, you can make it be however you think he might have liked, but either now he's moved beyond caring about stuff like that, or if he is like most husband's, he would like it exactly the way you chose it to be. Fortunately, wife took the burden off me by telling me she wanted absolutely no service, and didn't care what I did with her ashes, "Scatter them across the back yard for all I care". Well, I never had to deal with death before, not my whole life. I well imagine everyone of us here lost a huge part of ourselves, sometimes I truly believe a part of me died with her. Weird sh*t can and does happen. And we get through it. It just takes a lot of adjustments by us. But I'm convinced true healing comes only with time. Eventually we will just find ourselves totally out of it, That sounds so wrong. I mean we get to the point of being able to say, I survived my grief instead of just being able to say, I will survive my grief. Thanks for your post. ~~~ Scottie

We were living in FL when Cliff died, and as is typical in FL houses, we had ceiling lights with fans in every room. After he died, the one in the living room would come on by itself with the lights coming on and going up and down in brightness. This only happened when all 3 of us (me and our 2 sons) were in the living room. It freaked me out at first, but after awhile, I found it comforting and would just say 'hi Honey,' whenever it happened, and the boys said ' hi Dad'. I had the electrics checked by a friend, too, and there was nothing wrong with the light and fan.

I file that along with the other WSICE - Weird S**t I Can't Explain - like the strong scent of roses in middle of winter when there were none anywhere near me (his favorite flower), or feeling someone stroke my hair when no one was there (he loved my long hair). It transcends logic and reason, science and religion, and what have you. I am not a New Ager, nor am I stupid or superstitious - I am very much a nerd-ette. But I know it's Cliff.

Love and Hugs.....

Hi all,

Deb, I'm so sorry that you went through scary moments, and I offer you my condolences for the passing of your dear husband. I so understand how you feel. My own husband is with the Lord as well.

In the sense of it all we, who are widows and widowers, are more keenly attuned to the so called "bumps in the night." And I've never been frightened of my own husband's presence. He visits our home very often. Though always in peace. And I live with a safe feeling.

Yet before it all, we were then accustomed to listening for the works of performances inside the home as a couple, and, especially during the late hour of night, it is challenging not to have the usual two pairs of ears sharing in the responsibility of the safety for the home surroundings. When this responsibility falls on the surviving spouse, of course, it is always a watch and be ready, guarded type of feeling to deal with.

In your recent case of strange events, mostly the unusual happening was due to a time for certain in-home fixtures to be replaced or repaired. And the hurling thoughts of anxiety for having to decide what to do with his ashes may have caused you the urge to flee because of supposed dread; likely caused by your personal fear to this pressing responsibility with the ashes. You desire to do what's right to please him, because of devoted love for him. So, indeed, credit the feeling to get away from your home to the spooky designs of the devil, because Lucifer (Satan) has a way of trampling the emotions of mourners to fear that it is the departed whom are the ones causing strange, mysterious, nonscientific, paranormal activity of phenomenal powers inside your home.

Pray always that your heart and mind will not be overcharged by the perverted idea that your beloved would frighten you or do you harm. Never would the Lord allow your husband to cross boundaries while in the spirit world and harm you or frighten you. It is true that your beloved still has personal affiliations and occasional contacts with you, yet this is usually friendly, harmless actions, of which are only allowed respectively by God Himself, as it is His effort to comfort you during times of heavy, uncontrolled sorrow, or while there is need to communicate a warning of some personal nature.

Complex as it all is with the world of the departed, at times God reserves the privilege to send a loved one to a spot of action as a miracle of faith. And when you are better acquainted with grief, where there is not much sadness or disappointment, you will then have dramatic experiences with your husband while in visions or dream states. But you must flow out with the sorrow so that the Lord may logically introduce you to the spirit life in which your husband now lives peacefully and restfully.

Much love & you have my best hopes for this new way of life. Same for all above. I hope for all posters herein a rational healing. Have faith in God.