Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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Kimr210 12/25/2017

Hi, I'm new to the group and am sorry to find you all here with me sharing this horrible pain. I lost my husband of 23 years unexpectedly last month and like many of you had a horrible day today. I just wanted today to be over before it started, I did my best to go to family dinner and try to put on a smile for the kids in the family but inside all I wanted to do was go home and go to bed. I do have one child she is 17 and was feeling the same way as me today. I'm so glad that this day is almost behind us. Not that other days are much better but at least having to see everyone so happy (as they deserve) while I'm dying is side is killing me. I hope to find support here and see how others deal with the constant sadness and loneliness that has been cast upon us. I do what I can to keep my daughter smiling everyday as she lost her dad\best friend. Such a horrible slap in the face this has been.

Kimr210 01/02/2018

I'm really good at being strong when I'm not at home but once home forget it! I have a 17 year old daughter that is just now starting to have it hit home that he is gone, its just heartbreaking... Hopefully time will help and we will be able to think of the good times and not cry we won't have more but be happy for the ones we had. xx

bellax01 01/02/2018

Sorry for your loss. My husband died unexpextly on Dec.12, 2017. We were married for sixteen years. We have three children, 14 year old daughter, 12 year old son, and 8 year old son. I am waiting for the ME report. He was only 45. I am only 41

Kimr210 01/03/2018

Hi Bella, sorry to hear of your loss. It's so horrible to deal with. I hope that ME report will help you understand what happened to him. The why will never be answered. I hope you and your kids can pull together and help each other. If you need to chat feel free to message me. xx

Poppy52 01/03/2018

I feel so very sad for you all , Kim, Deb... your husbands were to young to leave you, bless you x its so bloody painful..... as a coment said , you want your husbands to help you deal with this... you need to talk to him ... get a cuddle and be told it will all be ok ... my thoughts are with you x

nebby 01/03/2018

my heart goes out to the people on this site who have children, how do you even have time to grieve? ifeel guilty that all i have is time to mourn and feel sorry for myself

Cherished 01/04/2018

Just wanted you to know I thought of you and all the others on here who had to make it through the holidays without your loved one. Lots of prayers for God to give you an extra dose of strength and peace in the new year. My best friend lost her husband about 5 years ago. He was 54, she was 49. They had been married 24 years and did everything together- work, farm, hunt, travel... whatever they did it was together until he died of a massive heart attack. My friend started out by wearing his watch every day so when she put it on and when she took it off she would think of him and all the little things they did. A couple of years later she went to wearing a special necklace he got her under her clothes, but still putting it on every morning and taking it off every night. She said it was a feeling of keeping something tangible of him in her life and to this day she thinks that helps her get through the hard times more than anything. I guess it was her lifeline, something to hang onto.

Renie 01/14/2018

Hi, I’m so sorry for your loss. My hubby too died unexpectedly. He worked out each day and always worried about me since I skip out on exercise. I came home and found his lifeless body, I had an autopsy done and he died from sarcoidosis. The autopsy results took months, it was so painful. I feel cheated he was only 50 years old, we did everything right in life...married, had children, loved eac other and prepared for retirement. My life is broken. Second anniversary is coming up and I am sad but will celebrate his life with my kids and family. We were married 29 years. Stay strong for yourself and your daughter.

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