I'm so sorry for your loss...
I made it about as far as you when I started to clean out the closet of his clothes. I thought that I wanted them to be there to feel closer to him but as time went on they served no purpose to me except as a constant reminder that he wasn't coming back. So when I did it, I did it quick. I didn't linger over every shirt and reminisce although I did save a few that had special memories. Everyone is different, pace your self and get the feel of what is best for you in how and when you proceed. My thoughts are with you on this journey with hopes for strength and courage to guide you.
Warm hugs...you can do this...
:)
Darcie

I haven't touched a thing of my wife's things yet. I know one day I will be forced to. Just can't bring myself to do it now. One day.

You are so brave to go through your husband's things. You must be completely drained. I lost my husband in January and haven't touched a thing. Can't seem to bring myself to do it although I know I will have to eventually. My mom tells me I will know when it's the right time. Leaning on her advice for now. Warm hugs to you tonight.

Thank you all. It's looking like I need to keep our PC for now, because this website doesn't like my mobile devices! Glad I was able to log in again. The first couple of months I just plowed through the business of getting all of the financial and legal things done. I cried some, but felt like I was getting along ok. Then this past week I guess my "denial bubble" firmly burst, and now it's really rough. Being middle aged in a new area is very hard. I'm fortunate to have a house here, but the winters are much more severe than I'm used to--had to live through nine feet of snow when my husband was in a skilled nursing facility--and I was born and raised in the area we had to leave. This is such a hard time to be away from everyone I was close to and everything I knew. But it is what it is, and I'm glad I found this site, because nobody really understands what this is like except the people who have been through it, and even all of us have to find our own way through. I'm just glad for a place where I can talk. I miss him so much it just tears my heart out. And watching him die of brain cancer was so cruel. He was such an intelligent man, and my best friend and soulmate.

I'm sorry for your loss also.
I donated his pants and shoes right away because they were stacked on a table in the bedroom due to lack of drawer space. It broke my heart to look at them knowing he was never going to wear them ever again. Yet it's been 21 months and I still kept all his shirts. He was known for his unusual shirts, and each one was hand picked by him and unique. Time still feels strange to me. Some moments I still think he is just away somewhere. I guess that is actually true. I feel his presence many times during the day and night. Blessings and comfort to you.

Sorry for your loss.
My husband passed away in January. We were married for almost 21 years.. like you , I have no family in the area but have lots of friends.
And happy to be back at work. One of these days, I will need to donate his belongings. knowing he will not be coming back.
I miss him every day. The emotional pain is getting better each day.
Warm

It has been exactly 15 months today since my second husband of 36 years passed away. It comes and goes the waves of grief..somedays and some moments more then others. Just about getting used to being me. I died too the day he died and now i am becoming someone else. I find joy in helping others and when done work i just sleep. I have no real hobbies and have no desire to go anywhere and do anything. I am just here.

So sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 3 months ago. I donated his clothes within the first month. I kept a few shirts for myself but everything else went. Some people questioned why I did it so quick but it was something i needed to do. I also live in a state away from my family so it is just me and the kids. I am currently getting the house ready to sell and move 3,000 miles away to be closer to my parents. This process has really put my grief in high gear as I have many decisions to make. But I have to think about what is best for my kids and being around family I know will be the best. I still miss my husband everyday and sometimes just finding a piece of paper he wrote on can leave me in tears for hours. I love this site, it has helped me more then the grief support groups I have gone to. Whether I am posting something or just reading other peoples stories gives me peace.