Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
Since this has been a topic at times I thought this fit -
Remembering can be painful and sometimes without any real benefit.
But muc of the time it helps us move ahead like a spur that tells us not to tarry but to go on and do what we have to do. It is far too easy to carry around a u s ga nv tsv, a false guilt, a wrong idea, to override our good memories. We lose sight of the positive things we have done and the happiness we have shared by recalling a thousand impossible wishes we wanted to come true. But it does no good to dwarf the present time because the past was not what we hoped it would be. We can not help but recall things and times and people dear to us - but to remember them with pleasure does them more honor than to focus on what we did or couldn't do in the past.
Our bare feet are conscious of the sympathetic touch of our loved ones who are gone as we walk over this earth.
Remembering can be painful and sometimes without any real benefit.
But muc of the time it helps us move ahead like a spur that tells us not to tarry but to go on and do what we have to do. It is far too easy to carry around a u s ga nv tsv, a false guilt, a wrong idea, to override our good memories. We lose sight of the positive things we have done and the happiness we have shared by recalling a thousand impossible wishes we wanted to come true. But it does no good to dwarf the present time because the past was not what we hoped it would be. We can not help but recall things and times and people dear to us - but to remember them with pleasure does them more honor than to focus on what we did or couldn't do in the past.
Our bare feet are conscious of the sympathetic touch of our loved ones who are gone as we walk over this earth.
That's what gets me through now. doesn't work for everyone but with the time I tru to use it to remember the very best parts of our life together. Not EASY many times, but it does HELP.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-ZpVxLjqXPE
Remember the good if you can. there is SO MUCH more of it than the bad
Diane