Widows & Widowers Support Group

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kmommy
kmommy

My husband went December 15th 2016. I met him when I was 17, he was 20. We got married in 1994,I was 20, he was 23.  We have been married 22 years.That day changed my life. I had to watch my husband go. My 21 year old son was there and we had to perform CPR, but he was gone. He was my best friend. My one and only love. I don't know how to live without him. Our 4 children are devastated and traumatized. I don't understand God's purpose was to take him from me. He did everything. I was a stay at home mom, and did everything.I don't know what do.I have no money, I can't get benefits until I'm 50. I'm only 42. This is so hard. I'm lost without him. I still feel like I'm watching someone else life.I wish I would go sleep and when I wake everything will go back to normal

shelda
shelda
This is a strange new world for us all here too and your in great understanding company here..hold tight and allow yourself a chance to breathe..I count mine and it gets my mind of my husband who died March 03 2016 ..10 months and i am still in another nightmare..and then i think of all the wonderful people in my life but mainly on here..i bare my innermost everything and so far no one has made me feel as though i should not be here..Everyone here is like us all so lonely and lost and scared ..i have to get a job too my husband was the main breadwinner stay at home Mom more of less for 36 years...Lean on your children they will be your greatest comfort,your so blessed to have each other now (( Hugs ))
southernmama40
southernmama40
I am so sorry for your loss. I have had to return to work too since my husband passed away in September. With 3 children under 18, they are eligible for social security benefits. This has been crucial to our financial situation. Look into it immediately.
Pbrook67
Pbrook67
I was lucky to already be on disability but I know the pain sweetheart. I lost my husband Sept 2015 and still feel empty inside. I too feel like I am living a dream. I had to induce CPR and watch him die in the hospital. I wanted to die with him and still feel that way some days. I found another to love and again was lucky but it isn't the same love I had. Hang in there and please don't blame God for that. He is with you and will go through it with you and guide you. Seek Him out and in the meantime I will pray for you that the pain ease for you.
kmommy
kmommy
I wish I could work again. I had to fight to get SSI. At my hearing they said I am unemployable. I have severe epilepsy. We are still trying to get a handle on it. I'm trying to be strong, but this the first time without my love since 17. I am 42 now and I feel so lost. I cry a lot, don't go out much, and I had to move because I couldn't afford to stay in our home. I don't feel him here with me because its not home. I am being strong for our children. They hate to see me so sad because all they have seen is me and their father happy. He was my rock. He took very good care of me with h my illness being diagnosed in 2012. I have panic attacks, I'm not sleeping at all. I pray it gets better for me because its unbearable.
Burgundy
Burgundy
I so sorry for your lost. I know what your going thru. The sadness, the emptiness is so unbearable. I lost my husband on December 8, 2016. We have six children and my last two are 15 and 11. I have to be strong for them as well as myself. The older ones check on us daily. My husband and I was married for 28yrs and to wake up each day without him hurts. They said it will get better but honestly I don't see how. But we must keep the faith that it will. I will add you to my list of prayer!
kmommy
kmommy
Thank you so much. I'm sorry for your lost. I know its hard for the kids. Mine are all grown up and its hard to watch their pain. Prayer is what we need. God bless.