I like Marsha's term for it - the "WTF Moment" - and yes I still get those even after all these years.

You're not alone, Sandi...

Love and Hugs,
Martha

Happens to me too. Sometimes when I get home from work, I'll have one of those moments, sitting there in the driveway and knowing there's no one home but me.

Yea, me too. I was out of town last week at a conference and the coming home was the toughest part. It was always fun coming home after being gone. Not so much anymore.

I'm at 16 months and they still hit with a vengeance. All of a sudden you realize this is real. It hits hard and I also cry every-time it happens. I've questioned if they will ever truly stop. I know in my mind she is gone, but when I try to feel that loss on an emotional level,that's when it hits.
Russ

I'll think I'm doing fine, keeping busy, etc. & then the cold realization of my loss will hit me & a wave of sadness washes over me. Try as we will there's no escaping the truth. Take care.

Yes, count me in.

Happens to me a lot.

Every day girl at some point every day. Just here lately when it happens it knocks me over completely.

You aren't alone my friend

Sandi,

You are not alone. Happens to me all the time. One minute I'm fine, and the next minute I'm sobbing uncontrollably. The grief is beyond overwhelming. We are not only grieving the loss of our spouses, but the loss of our lives as we knew it. Our hopes and dreams, our companionship, poof, all gone. Our sense of security. Someone to share our joys with. The list goes on and on. I think I am still numb.

BTW...my husband and I were planning a move to Colorado when he was diagnosed with cancer. We had been trying to move there for several years, and he finally had a good job offer. Now I just don't know what to do....

Love and Hugs,
Lori

Happens to me also, 9 months out almost and they smack you right in the heart. I don't thin they wil ever stop either. Maybe not as gut wrenching but non the less painful and sad.
Peace and Love
Laurie

Absolutely. Just got home from a very nice luncheon with friends, and as I drove into the garage the tears started to flow. Just another reminder no husband who always greeting me by the door !!!

Yeah. Absolutely. You're not alone in this, Sandi.

Yep!!! Many times I'm feeling OK and then I realize that my husband is not here. What a reality check! This really hits home if I go to an evening meeting and then walk into an empty house. I am not afraid...yet it is the reality sets in....I am really alone. My best to you....we will make it!

Sandi,

lori001 said it better than I could have. Yes, it happens to me too. And for all the reasons she mentioned.

I was supposed to grow old with Kim. I don't know who I am without her. And I hurt all the time because, quite honestly, I am lost without her. And, I have not yet forgiven myself for taking all that was wonderful and unique about her for granted.

Mostly, it is the small things that devastate me now. And I have no clue when they will hit...it is like being sucker punched all day long.

Scott

Just had this happen to me on the way home from work. No triggers. One minute I was ok (which is as close to good as I get anymore) next thing I was thinking of how badly I miss kevin and nothing will ever fix this. Cried all the way to the bridge.