Yeah that is what we envisioned - we were supposed to go to Alaska this year in our campers with another couple. Our dream vacation.

I get sad thinking though of what could have been, today its been hard to focus on what can be but its just one of those days. I want so hard for that to happen now.

I miss the eating our with him, sitting around our fire ring, dancing at Whistl' Jacks (haven't been there anymore), snowmobiling, riding the horses, arguing...BUT I can't change anything so I must go on.

Yes I've sung that song too. My fiance and I were planning our marriage and life together when he died. We didn't even really get started, but we had each other and were happy, so in a way we did have it all. It's great that you and Joe loved each other so much after all those years of marriage...that's quite a few years and still wanting to spend time together, that's a real testament to your love. I'm so sorry for your loss. :(

Here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i_4PlM85NJo

Know that we were all blessed.

Rileyann, thank you for your sweet remarks. My heart goes out to you in a special way because you were cheated more than the rest of us. I am so sorry for your loss. You are amazing to be able to "feel" for those of us who did have years together. Thank you, and God bless you. May God guide you in his way and provide the happiness you deserve in his own time.

I remember it well.... Just like Bogie and McCall! Blessings!

I can identify with this so deeply. I met my husband when I was fourteen, he was several years older. I graduated from high school when I was barely 17 and went to college, we couldn't wait to get married and start having babies so I dropped out of college and we married after I turned 18, we had four beautiful children, and we would have made our 40th anniversary this June. He had to retire in 2005 after a massive heart attack, but was doing well and keeping the home fires burning. We were so looking forward to when I could retire also and we could just spend time together and maybe do a little traveling, just enjoy our later years together. I find myself crying when I see those older couples traveling together, out walking in the park, that should have been us too. We hoped we would have ten or twenty years of just being together all the time before one of us passed on. I just was not prepared to lose him and be alone. We had a good marriage and many many years of happiness, four children, eight grandchildren and another on the way, but it still just doesn't seem long enough or seem fair for him to be gone. He was only 62, and I know there are so many on this site who have lost their loved ones so much younger, it's hard to understand. We did almost have it all.

I remember that song, was a favorite of mine, back in the day..
I am trying to think that "we DID have it all, this time", because never in our lives had we experienced a love so Strong, and so Beautiful.
It was cut way too short, our many future plans gone, but, yes, I am sure we had it all :)
Thank you for sharing,
((HUGS))
Debi

We too almost had it all. Our youngest was graduating from college in december and we had started to make plans to travel. Then he dies of a Heart Attack no warning signs what so ever only 52. The best was yet to come or so we thought. Married 32 years the best years of my life now what? Andree'

Perfect reference. Like a fine wine getting better all the time.

Yup, same thing for my husband and me. He was retired but still working part time and had a lawn business in the summer, and I was still working, had about 4 years to go until my full retirement age. All those plans; gone now. Sure wish it could have been different, but you can't go back. Recently I moved to the west coast from the mid-west. He and I had talked about moving here together after retirement, so in that sense, guess I am living this dream for the both of us.

I remember

We did have it all, just not long enough ....not long enough, at all. We managed 20 years together and 4 wonderful kids, but we never got to that golden age. I wish we had. We had such plans to be grandparents some day, he wanted to spoil them and give them back. I wish he had seen his daughter grown. But, I wouldn't give anything back for the time we did have. It was special and wonderful, and even though it had its hard moments too, we did have it all.
Missing him so much tonight. Tomorrow it will be six months.

I am crying...I could have wrote those words myself....so true ..so true.... May I borrow it and place my husbands name in there....

Well, Larry, didn't we almost have it all? Yep, we sure did, but it was not to be to the finish line. See you again one day. But until then, your ring remains on my hand and your love in my heart, as I come home alone in the dark at night, as I wake to a quiet house, and when I see something beautiful I can only tell myself about it.

Didn't we almost have it all........? Someday we shall my love...:)

Blessings~ Debbie

Marty and I did have it all. We had what alot of people search for all their lives. I am bleesed to have had him in my life for the time I had him. So yes when he was here on Earth we had it all love, family,laughter, traeling,boating and most of all each other. I wouldn't want it anyother way. After 4 years into this journey I can honestly sit back and say Thank you God for allowing this awesome person into my life and all the lessons we learned together. Did we get old together (no), did we share our Golden Years together (no) but yes we did have it al!!!
Hugs to all

New Roads,

You said it all. Me and my husband were in almost the same place as you and yours. My husband had just retired with full pension and health related social security at 57. He spent his time and money caring for the house; putting on a new roof, redoing the kitchen, besides caring for his elderly mother.
He wanted me to retire this year so that we could enjoy travel, time together, our lives. And then he died.
When I see those couples together, I can still cry. I can't go yet to restaurants, airports, Home Depot, without seeing them and wondering "Why not us?"
Yeah. We almost had it all.