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Living where I live in a rural community neighbors (most) get together to help. In disaster times you buddy up with an elderly couple, my husband and I did that when we had a landslide in Oct 2009 that blocked our community off for a few days/and we had minimal access for ~1 month after that while rebulding our rd system. I had not been able to do much since my husband died I had too much to do myself.
Now due to very poor health they have been forced to move from the home she has know 75% of her life - too big to take care of. Her family found a friend who would purchase for under cost to flip it. BUT it gives them $$$ to move into a mobile home in an elderly park, while in the process of moving he has had serious health issues than yesterday removed 80% of his colon - We have all been worried he would not make it through surgery. Her kids are moving their things out now (She is so upset as they do not feel for her things like she does and she has seen them just dump many things) She has had to get rid of many of her antique furnture for pennies....its been so sad.
I know where they are going will be easier on them but happier for her I dunno. Tomorrow we are doing a work party to help them load also...and we all just are feeling down for losing them up here, and for what they are facing.
Just thinking about them and makes me cry...so please send a prayer for Linda and Forrest for me ....
Now due to very poor health they have been forced to move from the home she has know 75% of her life - too big to take care of. Her family found a friend who would purchase for under cost to flip it. BUT it gives them $$$ to move into a mobile home in an elderly park, while in the process of moving he has had serious health issues than yesterday removed 80% of his colon - We have all been worried he would not make it through surgery. Her kids are moving their things out now (She is so upset as they do not feel for her things like she does and she has seen them just dump many things) She has had to get rid of many of her antique furnture for pennies....its been so sad.
I know where they are going will be easier on them but happier for her I dunno. Tomorrow we are doing a work party to help them load also...and we all just are feeling down for losing them up here, and for what they are facing.
Just thinking about them and makes me cry...so please send a prayer for Linda and Forrest for me ....
With many many helpers we did it in one big day (and one short evening) they are moved. AND
Forrest did well through surgery, took 80% of his colon, and he is to get out of intensive care today....unless something slows it down but he is fighting well.
I am babysitting their little chichuachua (sp?) mix who is getting along with my yellow lab and cairn terrirer...Course they know I would beat their behinds if they did not anyway...
A very emotional move - her children have been just kinda to all of us "BUTTS" 1/2 of me says they just want them moved and done with which is understandable but Linda has not been able to make decisions on what to keep or get rid of - many antique furniture in her family has been disposed of (while it is agreed some things would not fit in her new mobile home in a mobile park in the country luckily) she should have been able to make the decisions. We bit out tongues and helped them move as family dynamics were out of our control. Course many of her long time friends here did snag some things at our homes which we will resurrect in time for her where she can than decide in peace.
WHEW - it felt good to help them out....AND I was crying when all was gone - a long time neighbor gone...SIGH
AGAIN I am sure your prayers helped everyone is surprised Forrest did so well...he has been sick so long...
This particular story make me feel terribly sad for them.
Deni