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jenniferalves 10/09/2015

I read all the posts and responses and I realize tonight all our loved ones were truest loved. They were a part of our souls, a piece of us that died when they did. I have this picture of them meeting in the after life as we meet on this website. But instead of the sorrow and sadness they are laughing and telling stories of all of us. It doesn't take away the sadness and the heartbreak but I get a little giggle out of all of our loved ones shaking hands and smiling. I hope this doesn't offend anyone. Just a thought on my part. Been a tough Danny day!

kkg17 10/09/2015

Ive always pictured my Marc yukking it up with his old friends and family members who beat him to Heaven or Other Side. It gave me comfort, especially in the early days...

morninggloryalone 10/09/2015

Jennifer,
Your post is so positive and fabulous. I too believe that our loved ones are in Heaven, being so happy, and meeting one another. (I also do not mean to offend anyone that has different beliefs.) When I can hold on to this belief, it does make things a tiny bit easier. Of course I still have immense pain and loss. I haven't been able to achieve a whole or positive life, yet. When my husband died absolutely a part of me died. But I do pray that one day I will have a new life. I believe what you expressed is encouraging. Thank you for your post.

wendimac 10/09/2015

It's a comforting thought, Jennifer...and I hope it's true..I pictured my husband being reunited with his dad, who died when he was 28..he missed him so much...if he is with his dad, that would give me some comfort..

bestfiver 10/09/2015

I like your thought and its a positive hopeful way to think about our dear spouses. I miss my husband so much, and the only comfort I get is thinking that he's in a wonderful place- better than I can imagine. It's been 2 1/2 months since he passed and the pain is very great. Positive thoughts like yours help me. Thank you and God Bless. Susan

ptorres 10/09/2015

I have a lot of biker brothers that have passed before me and I ask them everyday to keep an eye on my girl and I will see them all again someday God willing. I picture them all riding with my wife on a perfect winding road and hopefully if I am worthy I will be riding in the wind with them when my time comes. ~Pete

debbyneeley 10/09/2015

I love this,,, it would be so cool to know that was what going on. great thought

jeanatds 10/09/2015

What a great thought Jennifer. Wishing you a better day today.

deleted_user 10/09/2015

Far be it for me to be the "sour note" but I just don't believe this. I believe that once our souls have left our bodies they search for another body to inhabit.

The literally move on to another life.

If it comforts you to think the way you do I am not here to dissuade your thinking. We are all entitled to believe in the way that best fits us.

I don't believe that anyone loved their mate more than I loved my Morey. He was a "one-of-a-kind" man. He loved me just as I loved him and it was an amazing marriage of two souls. Towards the end of his life he suffered so horribly with health issues that his entire personality changed but my love for him did not. As I looked deeply into his eyes I could see his love for me, even if he couldn't express it.

We all deserve to hold to what we believe and to be comforted by those beliefs.

Warmly,
Roz

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