I am so sorry for your loss. I know having your first special day without your husband is very difficult. This is the first of many other firsts. I wish I could say something to make you feel better. All I can say is the day is still special and it celebrates your special day and for that I wish you happiness but most of all peace and comfort. As you remember your birthdays try thinking of how special it was to you both and remember the happy times you shared. It was a blessing to have had those days. I know your dear husband will be looking on you and wanting so much for you to know he is okay now, and he wants you to be okay. Hugs to you and special blessings to you now.
Anne

I am so sorry for your loss..

and also how very hard it is to have this first birthday without him and SO close to his loss......

wishing you peace and comfort.....

hugs.....

I am sorry for your loss.

Those first anniversary's without them whether yours or his birthdates etc are the toughest.....they are a constant reminder they are not here,

And how you deal with them is ok, there are no set rules.
We celebrated my husbands first birthday after his passing just like he would have done at his favorite restaurant, and we shared good stories of him -
We wrote messages on balloons to him, and let them go..

lots of hugs at this time......

My 1st without my Lee was New Years Eve. Lee passed on Dec. 30th. I was staying with my daughter and her family and she was trying to make the nite special for the kids. All I could do was sit on the porch alone, drinking sparkling grape juice. New years will never be an enjoyable event for me again. I understand I have a lot of 1sts to go through yet,
Try to do something with friends or family if you can so you don't have to sit alone, just thinking that he is not with you. I send you warm hugs on this day.
Gwen

I know that this day and Sunday are so painful for you. I am so sorry for this awful loss. We celebrated my husband's birthday the same way that Nicker07 did. His deathday was the day after his birthday and having his BD party made the next day a little easier to get through.

Wow...June 8th is also my birthday. Like your Charlie, my Tom's passed away only 6 weeks ago. Today was particularly difficult for me. I came across a poem he wrote for me on my birthday 8 years ago, and I sat on my bed crying for an hour. This was also my first "special" day without my love, and I miss him more than words can express. Hang in there. I take life one minute at a time, as I know that what I am feeling is OK. It is still surreal to me, and because of that, I realize that I have quite a bit of healing left to do. I have also found that it is getting more difficult instead of getting easier. Hugs to you.
Beth

So sorry for your loss and it is still so fresh and raw as you are going through some of the "first". The are extremely hard and nothing that I can say that will help take that pain away or I would do that.....I did find that the more firsts that I went through, the day itself was not as bad as the days leading up to that day??? I still sobbed at each one of them but some did not last as long or were as intense as the ones before.
I hope that you do something special for YOU this weekend to celebrate both your birthdays. Know that he is watching over you and would like you to enjoy it as best as you can.......
Do what YOU need to do to get through it........wishing you some peace and healing in the days ahead......hugs

My "Bear " and I had the same BD sept. 24th. I can't ever have another HaPPY BIRTHDAY. It sucks.

I am sorry for your pain and loss. It is hard to have these special days without sadness. My birthday was 10 days after Stan died, and now I've had 2. It's hard, but we try to make the best of the day as possible. Stan died at 59 and was 11 months older so we would be the same age for a month. It was hard for me to be older now, but in my mind I just make him another year older when we celebrate his life on his birthday-----it works for now----I decided what helps me feel better is OK
I hope your days will hold some peace, comfort and some sweet memories of birthdays you shared together.
Hugs, Sallie

sorry for ur loss .first r always worst but as time goes by you remenber the happy times .happy birthday to you today and your husband sunday hugs dave

This STILL is a very SPECIAL day!! (also my late mom's birthday)

I know I must repeat myself alot, but I truly DO BELIEVE that our birthdays and theirs are something to be celebrated. If we had never been born, we would have never met our soulmates, and would have never felt the joy of what true love can bring to one life.....ours.

the first special date is so HARD to go through, but if we just try to remember ONE thing that was beautiful out of all the moments that made up such a wonderful life together, my hope is that it will ease the pain that is felt by them being gone in the physical. The gift is that our memories? NO ONE CAN EVER take those away from us. They, like the love we had, are FOREVER in our hearts like a tattoo, that will NEVER FADE with thime.

16 months and they are more vibrant than ever. I hope they always will be, and I hope the same for you.

Happy birthday to you, and know he thinking of you too.

HUGS of understanding and hopes for one happy memory today. They are worth all the painful ones.

Diane

well said diane hugs dave

Wayne has been gone a week now. He was TERRIBLE at birthdays, christmas, etc.

So my birthday is the end of June, I am having his memorial gathering that day.

He is going to have a get together weather he likes it or not:))

Our birthdays are in August , his the 7 th mine the 16 th, he was 12 years my senior, not looking forward to catching up with him. I am very sorry for your loss, it has been just over 4 months for me and every new first is so hard. I do wish you a Happy Birthday today. Rhonda

Sorry about your loss. I know how you must feel. Our birthdays were a day apart in September. Sometimes it felt like a week long celebration. My wife died 6 days after her birthday and having to buy her what was going to be her very last birthday card was incredibly hard. Hugs to you.