I personally think it is extremely healthy. Anything that gives us comfort and some sense of clarity is worth doing. I will talk to my wife's picture at times. At those moments its just what I need to do to reach out. Wishing you peace. Gerald

If you're weird, then we both are. I wrote to Cliff, and I would talk to him every night before bed to tell him all the things that had happened during the day and how I missed him, and how mad I was at him some days for leaving. There was so much emotionally that I needed to get out or I thought I would just burst, so sometimes I wrote it and sometimes I said it, and other times it just flowed out on a stream of tears. It helped.

I don't think it's weird.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

Its not weird.
I write to Tracey in the same way, not always on this site, but in private.
We used to talk all the time about silly simple things, so I tend to feel this lets me keep her here with me. I also talk out loud to her when I'm on my own, I can't hear her reply, but hope she hears me. I also think it helps me to get things clear in our own mind when trying to navigate this new life. Take care, John

Not weird at all. I'm sure I'm not the only one that talks to my spouse. I also feel him nearby. I smell his cigar smoke in the house on occasion. My daughter smells it as well. I believe they're with us more than we think.

I do that too especially if what I wanted to discuss was very personal. I would send him an e-mail. Although, my husband passed away, I kept his e-mail active. It is another option when I really needed to unburden. Also, I can check back on what I've written and the progress I've made. Continue doing writing/talking to him, who cares if it's strange, what matters is the positive effect it does on you. I guess now you're relieved knowing, you're not doing it alone.

I do it too. I write to him, it makes me feel so good. I often don't even think twice about it, you shouldn't either. There is no right or wrong way only YOUR way. Grief is relative my dear one, relative to the person as every person is different, therefore every grief journey is different. Asking others to weigh in so you can feel like you're not losing it, perfectly normal too. I do it ALL the time.
Write to him talk to him do what brings you peace what comforts you. I sometimes talk to his picture sometimes just as I'm cleaning or as I'm lying in bed. It's cathartic and healing for some.
I love that you asked, I love it when you all ask questions I have wondered about but never asked. They always help me, and it gives others a chance to vent and talk about their journey and pain and I think in every way each post whether it begins a discussion or someone is responding it is healing.
Much love to you
Cindy

Thanks to everyone for letting me know your thoughts. Once again your replies have helped to make me feel better. Its nice to hear that there are others who feel the same as I do. I just wish it wasn't for something as difficult as losing a loved one.

I do this also. It was my therapists idea. I felt like it helped me talk to him as we'll as get my thoughts out. I don't so it as often as I used to, but since he was the only person who understood me and I wasn't comfortable talking to anyone else about what I was going through, it really helped me feel like he was helping me get through this. :-)

I don't think it's weird at all. I have been doing it since about 3 days after he died. Just needed an outlet for my feelings. I bought a journal and just sit down at the end of each long and exhausting day and write whatever comes to mind. Sometimes I tell him what happened that day or sometimes it's just about how hard it is without him. Doesn't matter what it is as long as it helps you to get through yet another day of being alone. I was going through a box of my late mother's things today and found 3 sheets of paper stapled together in her handwriting and guess what. It was 3 pages of her thoughts on what she and my Dad used to do together. Felt funny reading her private thoughts, but let me know that she needed to write also. I think more people do it than you might think. Keep writing and talking to their photos if it helps you. What anyone else thinks doesn't matter.

Oh gosh! I never thought of it as weird, just as something that brought me comfort...writing to Ron, talking out loud to him...ah well, if that means I've been weird for 4 years, so be it! I'm ok with that.

I talk to her when i get up in the morning and when i go to bed at night ; I write to her every night on my blog. It doesn't feel right if i don't

I wrote to Don in a private journal for a long time. I also wrote how I was feeling and how angry I was to see couples together when I was alone. I think it's an excellent way to work out your feelings and I would recommend it to everyone trying to navigate through this process. Sharon

Katexyz123, I am very sorry for your loss. No, I do not think your writing to your deceased husband is weird. Heck, I find myself talking to my deceased partner even though he may not be able to hear me. I think any thing that makes us feel better is good for us.

I'm a writer and yet, I have not written Morey. I talk to him all the time, I share what's happening in my world with him. I can find myself talking to him day or night.....but, the elusive "word" has not been put to paper yet.

I have so much to say, I fear I'll just breakdown at every turn and won't be able to finish it. Also, there's so much that our children and family do not know. I'm not ready to share it all yet.

The day that I write it all down, will be the truest healing day of my life!!!!!!

Roz