I lost my wife about 5 1/2 months ago to canver about a 5 month battle from diagonouses to the end, so I understand what you have gone through. I came to DS about a month later and have to credit it with keeping me sane. I found out alot of the things going through me head were basicaly nornal, if any of this is normal. Come here oftern post as much as you want and ask questions, it will help. Best to you.
Jeff

We are supposed to live happily ever after with our partner. That is the dreamy concept in all our minds. We just never were prepared for anything like this to ever happen. But many become widowed every year. The stories, the emotions, the tribulations are more similar than different.

Many years ago, before I was even married, I had a foreboding of sorts. There was a couple in their latter 60s across the road. He died suddenly. This widowed lady was converged upon by all kinds of friends/family for about a week (she had a tiny mobile home and it was full to capacity)... then it was down to one straggler, then that person left too. This lady was all alone. I hardly ever saw anyone else go over there. I moved on, and I heard she passed a few years later.

I remember the situation really struck me at the time - first just her and him, then the onslaught of people for a few days, then she got the "call if you need anything." I felt so far removed from anything like that ever happening to me. Well, here I am.

Keep the faith my friend, and sorry for your loss. Take good care of yourself.

Welcome to DS!! Sorry for your loss. My husband had cancer for 4 1/2 years then passed away 10/3/12. I am sure you have many questions as we all do. All you can do is take it all in one moment at a time.

That's what struck me as well. There are just SO MANY of us who have lost a beloved husband/wife/partner. I was so full of pain when I found this site and yet could not believe how many others were in pain as well. It's not something you think about when you're happily married and going on with life.

I'm glad you've found us. This is a place where nobody wants to be, and yet we "get it". We understand and we will listen to you vent and cry and complain and hopefully lend a bit of support.

I could not have made it through those early dark days if it hadn't been for this group. Hang in there - you're not alone.
Sending warm hugs

Sorry for your loss. I feel the same way about this site. I found it the same day I lost my husband. It is one of the great things about living in this century--the internet allows us to reach out to each other all over the world. I'm now is several other groups on this site, but none are as helpful as this.

Sorry for your loss. My husband also passed away from cancer last year. This journey is hard but one moment at a time. God bless

I am truly sorry for your loss. It is a hard and tough process but you have come to the right place. People on this site will understand your plight and not judge you because they have walk along the grief road.

You will not feel so alone, come and read or post as often as you need. We are all from all walks of life, from different countries and backgrounds but we still can help one another and it makes a difference. One thing I have learn is to be kind to yourself and to take time to grieve (I have not always followed my own advice and I fell apart, I am better now and treat myself with care).

Take care. You are not alone. Big hug to you.

Welcome....I am sorry for your need but we are all here together to help each other through this.

Cancer widow, I had 9 months of hard earned time to spend my last's with my husband.

I'm sorry for your loss. I too lost my husband 6 months ago and he was my soulmate. We were married 27 years. He died of brain cancer 5 months after diagnosis. I'm so lonely and have such a fear of a lonely existence to come. Few family and friends..don't really see the value or point in a future life without him. But this site is consoling. Sad to say but reading posts from people going thru the same thing is somehow comforting....I guess the we all " get it."

So sorry to hear about your lost. I was so raw and full of pain when I lost my husband a year ago.

We had 3 yrs left from the time the word cancer was announced. I didn't think about me or him leaving me. Instead total focus was on the battle to get rid of it. Needless to say we lost.

Time is a friend and enemy. Each day seemed to last forever. Each day was so hard. However over a year, the pain has eased up. I find comfort in knowing that my husband is not in pain.

I didn't find this site until a couple of months ago. My pain might of lessen faster had I found this site a year ago. It's so nice to talk to people who are, or have been through it all.

Hug to you.

I'm so sorry for your pain and loss. I entered this club 18 weeks ago today when my husband of 34 years suddenly passed away. I also found this site recently and it has been such an encouragement to know someone else is on the same journey and feels the same way as my friends don't seem to have a clue.