Glad you joined. I also had never done a discussion board or any type of social media prior to stumbling into this site 3 years ago. I was 3 months in and disintegrating. I knew I had to do something, and somehow stumbled in here Lord holding my hand. It wasn't as much reading posts of others that helped, it was the therapeutic value of writing about my grief, emotions and world turned upside down that helped. Nothing in life had ever undid me like the loss of my wife Juani. This quickly became my life boat. Eventually though, little by little, I got a life again. Not the same life, but a life with friends that care for me and I for them. A new world awaits all of us, just takes way more time than any of us could ever imagine. ~~~ Scottie

I also never thought I would join group like this but I found that the people around me who had not lost a spouse, really didn't understand. They sort of think that eventually you will just pick up where you left off but you don't. Your life changes completely. Everything you do or the places you go remind you of the life before. You basically have to start over and this is very difficult. Learning to be alone after years of being the other half of a life is not easy. I struggle every day and I still have anxiety attacks, especially at night but I do believe that we all can find our own way, it just takes time. Thank you all for being here for the journey.

Welcome to the group. Being a part of DS has really helped me in how I've always felt about losing my wife. I'm not alone. People never quite see it the way it is unless it's happened to them. Basically starting all over again. That part I've managed some what successfully. I have accepted the fact that Lynn will always be there in my thoughts and dreams everyday and in a way? I'm all right with that.

Hey TXgirl70!
I'm new to this life (lost my Heather on June 16th) and I have really felt alone even surrounded by family and friends. I came here needing that connection to others in my situation. The people here are so welcoming and helpful, even when I ramble on and on about nothing in my journals. Coming to grips with this loss and trying to find what's next is hard and you need people who get it to help you through. I'm around if you need an ear. Take care.

It will be 3 months on Thursday since I lost my Bob to sepsis brought on by a root canal that I begged him not to get. He said it's a one in a million chance something bad will happen, but I guess not. When he started showing symptoms, he told his doctors about the root canal but no one would listen to him at all. He had to go to the ER and never came home. He fought so hard for 3 months in the ICU, but every time he would seem to be improving, he would get hit hard from another direction. I spent every day with him all day long except when the awful nurses would kick me out of the room. I was so afraid for him and didn't trust their care. It was with good reason because my kids and I lost a wonderful, kind and caring man. We will never get over it. I hope this group helps you heal and at least reduce your anxiety. Just when I think I am getting better, something else hits me and brings it all back.

Thank you all for telling me a little about your stories. I have just now snapped out of my "I don't give a shit" stage and trying to start coping. It's not easy, and I am learning I have good days and bad days.