Widows & Widowers Support Group
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Before my love passed he had told me he wanted three things. Which funeral home to go to, he wanted to be creamated and he didn't want an obituary in the paper. My husband was I guess you could say a "non-conformist". He didn't like attention drawn to him. He didn't even attend his own retirement party. So the kids and I decided to bypass the whole funeral home gig and go back in time to having a gathering at my brother's home in the country. My youngest son ordered a beautiful urn and designed the little programs to hand out. (the funeral homes's were so chintzy. we all called our closest family and friends to let them know if they could make it we would be honored.We gathered on a beautiful sunny Saturday and were surrounded by compassion and love. I think he would have been proud The handouts turned out beautifully.(though the card stock was a little stiff so we left them as 8 x 10s. My son had a husky in the background, A terrific picture of my husband. And pictures of my dear grand daughters as babies with him and one of them as they are now. And of course We love you dad and We love you Grandpa. And I added this text.
In Loving Memory of
Gary
September 17th 1951 to April 23rd 2015
With this ring I thee wed. Nearly 40 years ago we exchanged these vows. Your ring is now worn smooth, but it is my most precious possession. To love, honor and cherish. I will always love you and I will honor you by telling those two beautiful grand daughters Lola and Avah what a wonderful man you were and how much you loved them. And I will cherish the wonderful memories we shared together. There are so many and they keep flooding back when I least expect it. For richer or poorer. Our lives were rich beyond belief, full of laughter and most of all love. In sickness and in health. You fought so hard these past weeks, months and years until your very last breath. Til death do us part. How could we have known so many years ago that this time would come far too soon? Though you are gone, we will never part. I will carry you in my heart until my very last breath. You gave me three beautiful children, Josh, Andy and Sarah and I see a part of you in each. And we gained a son Justin and a daughter Crystal, how could we have been so blessed? I would have willingly traded places with you but that was not to be. I know I will never be whole again until we are reunited. And when that time comes you will be waiting for me with open arms to wrap around me again with your gentle touch. And those beautiful dimples will smile at me forever. One of the last things you said to me when I told you I love you was, I love too, I wonder who loves who more ? We will pick up that conversation when we meet again.
Forever yours,
Michele
It will be six weeks tomorrow since he passed and not getting any easier!
In Loving Memory of
Gary
September 17th 1951 to April 23rd 2015
With this ring I thee wed. Nearly 40 years ago we exchanged these vows. Your ring is now worn smooth, but it is my most precious possession. To love, honor and cherish. I will always love you and I will honor you by telling those two beautiful grand daughters Lola and Avah what a wonderful man you were and how much you loved them. And I will cherish the wonderful memories we shared together. There are so many and they keep flooding back when I least expect it. For richer or poorer. Our lives were rich beyond belief, full of laughter and most of all love. In sickness and in health. You fought so hard these past weeks, months and years until your very last breath. Til death do us part. How could we have known so many years ago that this time would come far too soon? Though you are gone, we will never part. I will carry you in my heart until my very last breath. You gave me three beautiful children, Josh, Andy and Sarah and I see a part of you in each. And we gained a son Justin and a daughter Crystal, how could we have been so blessed? I would have willingly traded places with you but that was not to be. I know I will never be whole again until we are reunited. And when that time comes you will be waiting for me with open arms to wrap around me again with your gentle touch. And those beautiful dimples will smile at me forever. One of the last things you said to me when I told you I love you was, I love too, I wonder who loves who more ? We will pick up that conversation when we meet again.
Forever yours,
Michele
It will be six weeks tomorrow since he passed and not getting any easier!
I wish you strength and peace in the days ahead, hugs. Liz
Peace to you, Lori
Wishing all of you well -
Doye
Hugs,
Val
I lingered on every word you wrote. Your love for each other shined through.
Morey wanted to be "stuffed and mounted on the fireplace!" Unconventional, was his middle name! Of course, he was just kidding but he does rest on a table in our bedroom.
The love of my life, the father of my children, my heart of hearts......what more can anyone say.
I'm moving forward with ALL of you....we're ALL moving together, standing strong by one another, in our sadness and happiness that we were the lucky ones. YES, we were the ones who had that true love that eludes most of the human race.
Stay strong,
Roz
The Memorial card was so lovely......I am so sorry for your loss, I am sorry for all of our losses. The pain is raw, but in time I hope the edge will come off.
Many hugs to you.
Jen
What a beautiful rememberence, and such beautiful thoughts you expresed - ok, I admit it - I teared up.
choose a urn necklace, that I wear daily, close to my heart.
When I moved to Az I ordered my new license plate with his name
on it.... It has been a year now, but miss him just the same. Like you, and others he & I will meet again !!!!
Six weeks was really hard..I think it's when the shock is starting to wear off. Sounds like you have great kids and family, so let them help you.
One thing my kids have done to help (inadvertently maybe) is inviting themselves and friends over, and I cook a big meal for them. I like it though...the shopping, chopping, and cooking and serving is therapeutic for me and gives me something to do. Miss my husband being here to serve the wine though.