Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I am new to the group. It has been 4 months since my husband's sudden death. We were married for 21 years and have 3 children still living at home. I devote a lot of my time to their care and that is fulfilling and helps me stay busy. They are helping me to reclaim my joy. But I still get so lonely. All of my friends are married couples. I avoid spending time with them because it makes me feel more of an outsider and alone. I have tried new things to start to make new friends (yoga, tennis) but at 40 years old, it feels so awkward. I am wanting to have new experiences with new people. I know it is too soon to date, but I am really feeling like reaching out to men. I have never dated or had sex with anyone but my husband. Like I said, I am lonely. I miss him. I'm so confused about what is next for me.
As for reaching out to men, I think it is quite natural and normal to have those feelings....................you miss your husband. However, you said yourself that it is too soon to date, so please listen to that voice that tells you it is too soon. I have known people that jumped into dating relationships before they were ready and the results were usually disasterous. We need time to heal and to find out who we are as a person, an individual, before we become half of a couple again.
That is my two cents, anyway.
I am glad you have found this corner of the Internet, although very sorry you had to find it in the first place. There are some very good people here who understand what you are going through.
Sylvia