This group is an amazing one to be in. Hearing people's story really helps. I lost my husband and month ago to a tragic accident. I miss him but try everything in my power to stay busy.

Im sorry for your loss , my spouse also recently died last August and I can feel the same as yours. I found this site on one of my darkest hours searching for some answers.My prayers for your healing and acceptance.

Sending hugs and prayers to you . My husband died in his sleep of a heart attack on 23 sept. It's like yesterday . Trying to be strong for the children . Please take one day at a time. Nia.

Sunlight, I'm sorry for your loss. My husband, Dennis too passed unexpectedly in his sleep of a heart attack. And I found him..
I think for me it was why didn't I see it coming. Guilt is one of the worst emotions we can allow ourselves to feel..Believe me..I went through it..But it is a wasted emotion and changes nothing..Next is regret for what might have been and won't be...My husband was an Optimist and Loved everyone..
He would never want me to dwell in these emotions to long..Dennis would always say when I was having a bad day or up-set with someone, Gail, get over it, better days are coming..After 17 months I'm feeling better about my life..It will never be the same, it can't be, it's just a new kind of Normal...
Death is a normal transition through this Journey called..Life..
Grief is the agony of an instant, the indulgence of grief the blunder of life..
Take care of yourself Sunlight, come here often there are many wonderful people here ready and willing to share Their/your journey through grief..They saved my life and I hope in some ways I helped save theirs...
Prayers and hugs..Gail..

Hi Gail, Prayers and blessings to you, too, and thankyou for your reply --- the new kind of normal -- wow -- I'm on the emotional rollercoaster right now -- it seems like I'm hearing about more people whose spouses pass during sleep and have heart attacks -- without any warning -- I think the shock takes so much time to get through -- no plans, no goodbyes -- no warnings --- I'm settling a little bit as time goes on -- not sure how to handle all the financial parts yet or how to find more work yet -- grateful to be here where people understand this journey, hugs@!

We all know what your speaking of. I make my self go out for walks now..and have been writing about self love to myself..i feel everyone dislikes me .. i am really trying to see this pain as a blessing to help me become something else. I feel as though I am someone else. Almost ..I am at over 8 months now since my husband of 36 years died. Our adult children but one talks to me. The others do but its just BS. I am claiming me back again.

Hi Sunlight, I can relate to you as well as what others have replied, as for what to do next? Sounds like you are doing it,one step at a time, I lost my husband of over 16 years, 15 months ago and I still do not know what to do.I am lost,lonely, there are days I struggle just to open the blinds and look outside. There are also days where I get out go, for a drive or take the dogs for a walk. We all go through our grief in different ways.take care, everus

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband exactly the same way suddenly in his sleep 9 months ago. It is not easy but we are all here for you. One day at a time...hugs, Vicki

Thank you all for your love and support and sharing. It is quite a journey. And it feels so strange to be "single", amidst all the other changes. I want to take the opportunity to work on my self and my life, and at the same time, the bouts of loneliness and raw feelings keep coming and going...... I am looking for more work ..... maybe it's too early ...... it's been three months since he passed away now. I guess grieving and healing is unique for every person. It's hard to know where to put my energy some days.....some days i want to move forward, and other days i want to be alone, feel, comfort myself with long walks and hot showers and hot soup........ Prayers and hugs to all!!! Sunlight

Hi. I lost my husband a little over a month ago too in his sleep. I'm wrecked with guilt. Did I call 911 fast enough? Should I have started CPR sooner? Did I do everything I could to save him?? We are awaiting the autopsy results so that I can get some answers as to what happened. He was healthy, fit and only 56 years old!! We were happyily married for 29 years. I understand what you're going through and I'm so sorry for your loss. My kids are in college and they keep me going.

Hi,
Your story and mine sound very similar. I hope you are doing ok? It has been just over 2 months for me and I am still in shock. How are you doing?
Jeanne

Hi I lost my husband October 18 from a heart attack, he was only 56. We had been married 33 years. I found him and I ask myself everyday, what if I only found him sooner. I am living right now one day at a time, minute by minute and hour by hour.
I still have my moments of breaking down. But this website is awesome and I find I can rant and everyone understands and are very caring. Write what you feel and how you feel we are all here for you. Take care and god bless you

I am so so sorry for your loss. I too lost my very healthy husband on 2/12/16. My hubby worked out f5 days a week and I came home after working a 12 hour shift and found him dead-from a heart problem- so unexpected. So many broken dreams and my future is shattered. I found this site one night when I couldn't sleep and it has helped me cope. I pray for you and everyone that has lost a loved one, I have never known such sadness- I just cannot get past this emptiness.