Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
Ray always kept our woodburner going this time of year. Chopped wood, it actually was fun going out into our woods with him, find a dead tree and cut it up for firewood. Even though he was weaker, he would go and chop firewood..he would make the most awesome, uniform pieces of wood for our woodburner. Me I toss in the biggest, ugliest pieces of wood I can find so that they last a longer time. I always refered to the woodburner as "his mistress".
Odd things that didn't seem inportant before have so much meaning now. His picture is above the woodburner on the mantal..and as I shove and polk the to large of a piece of wood into the woodburner I talk to Ray and say" now don't yell I'll get it in, she'll be ok, she can handle this wood"
Just before Ray was going to have surgery he told me he was going to have to teach me how to use the woodburner.,.wow what a pain in the *ss this thing is.. Hope he is proud of me now..
Odd things that didn't seem inportant before have so much meaning now. His picture is above the woodburner on the mantal..and as I shove and polk the to large of a piece of wood into the woodburner I talk to Ray and say" now don't yell I'll get it in, she'll be ok, she can handle this wood"
Just before Ray was going to have surgery he told me he was going to have to teach me how to use the woodburner.,.wow what a pain in the *ss this thing is.. Hope he is proud of me now..
I have a woodstove in my kitchen -- the only heat source there -- and my husband loved it. Last year when he was hospitalized, I had to learn how to use it, which was not as easy for me as it probably should have been. When he came home for his final journey, he wanted a fire In the woodstove almost every day well into June. So, this winter, which is so cold and stormy, I am better at making the woodstove heat properly (more or less) but find the constant trips to the woodshed to carry in armloads of wood to be exhausting. The only bright spot is in thinking how my husband would be both pleased that I am doing it and also amused at how grumpy it can make me,
I know how hard this can be and how lousy it is that you have to do it on top of all the other heartaches of this grief path. But you are succeeding and moving forward -- and that is so great!
Please give yourself a lot of credit and know that you are strong!
Peace,
Valie
I can't imagine how I'd survive in the climate I live in without it! Nor would I want to!
We had a woodburner at Morey's lake house........I NEVER had the privilege to learn how to use it!
I'm sure Ray is smiling down on your abilities to keep yourself warm!
Roz