Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
Have you considered a teacher's assistant too? It would depend on where you live whether jobs are available - but I'm thinking you need to look at what you have to offer too that might place you in a better position than someone else. With one son with mild autism you have knowledge/experience that others would not in that area.
Good luck - my husband's name was Pat too - and I'm expecting I might lose my home soon too - even though I have a good job.