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My old friend

Mikesgirlgail
Mikesgirlgail

I have a friend who I was very close to for a long time but the friendship fizzled out because, as we got older we went down different paths. I hadn't seen this lady for 10 years but Lo and behold, there she was in the supermarket yesterday. Big hugs and all that superficial crap was exchanged. She didn't say she was sorry that Michael had died even though she had known him for many years. She actually told me that there are many more men out there. I've known this woman since we were in our early 20s. She's been married and divorced 3 times and has had many boyfriends since. She is engaged yet again and wears a huge diamond. She said to me " oh my Rod was sick when I met him, we spent 2 years together before he died" so I know. No!! You don't know lady. I was married to my husband for 32 years and 3 years later, I am still suffering. Pfft

gregsbaby
gregsbaby
Wow she sounds like a hot mess! Who knows the way she sounds this marriage probably won't last either. I'd stay clear of her like you have been. I hate people like her that try to talk down about someone else's relationships, yet theirs is mucked up! People that haven't lost their spouse just have no clue that it's not written in stone that in X amount of years you should be done grieving. Sending big hugs!
Dave61
Dave61
Doesn't sound like anyone I would like to meet. She may have married several times but doesn't sound like she ever found true love, without that there is no way she can know what we are going through. (Hugs) Dave
Community Leadercliffskat
cliffskat
She brings to mind the expression, "She has more issues than Vogue..." Wow - I could see why all her relationships failed! Don't let it get to you. As my late husband used to say, "You can't fix 'stupid.'" She's not worth it.

Love and Hugs,
Martha
scottito
scottito
Gail, there are many types of "love" if you want to call it that. There are loves of "I've got no one better so you'll do for now", convenience, ladder climbing, arm candy, "see what I can out of this one before I move on" and everything in between. But for some of us, we found true love, that spirit to spirit connection where the two of us became one. And whether that true love was for a day or a lifetime, we are blessed to have found it once in our lifetime, for some, more. Personally, I would downgrade your "friend" to "acquaintance I never care to see again". But hey, that's just me. I honestly don't want to waste my time on shallow fake people. They have nothing to say that interests me and the only thing I get from those type of people is a waste of time. But like I say, that's just me. Or should I say, the new me. Ignorance is simply a lack of knowledge. A fake is someone pretending to be what they are not. There are so many superficial people out there it makes me wonder if there are any real ones out there anymore. Then I come here and read the posts and my faith in humanity is restored. ~~~ Scottie
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