I am so sorry or your loss. at 8 weeks, you are just at the beginning of this journey. You are in a fog, embrace it, it will protect you. I lost my husband 2 years ago. We would have been together 50 years in July. You can't hurry it. You have to go through it, there's no way out. I gave myself a year, and here I sit 2 years. It seems to be worse. I know it is hard, taking care of a parent, I did. Give yourself time. Make sure you eat, drink, and sleep. Take care of you. God Bless you. Sandee

JerreR, I too am just past the 2 month mark of losing my husband and he was the same age as yours. I know about that lost feeling and the fear that follows. The emotional pain is so hard to endure at times . My husband loved football too but I cannot have it on anymore it was his thing. It sounds like you have your hands full with a job and Mother to care for do not forget to take care of you. I am also starting a grieving group tomorrow so hopefully it will help us both.
Hugs to you !
LisaAnn

JerreR . . . So sorry for your loss and a tough Sunday. Anniversary's are difficult as well as other "triggers", like football Sunday. I am glad that you have an appointment with a counselor. Therapy is a wonderful key element in getting the support you need right now. Atta girl . . .

Sounds like you have a full plate with your job and mom with dementia. Not easy on a good day, let alone on top of grief. My husband had dementia in the end months and often times I thought I was the "insane" one. It's a frustrating caretaker position to be in. Be sure that you take time to take care of "you"!! Often we negate our own needs in lieu of taking care of others. If you are like most of we caregivers, it is in your nature and hard to discipline taking care of self as well, yet most important for your own well being.

Hang in there, you are stronger than you think. I'm sending you lots of positive healing thoughts and energy. Dayna

So sorry for your loss. I'm right there with you, as my wife died around the same time. I miss her every minute. I wish you comfort, and DS should be a help. Chris

I'm so very sorry for your loss. 58 is too young, it's so unfair.
Your pain is so raw, you have to give yourself lots of time to grieve.

I understand about the football game. My husband was a huge Steeler fan all his life. After he passed away in July I couldn't watch the preseason games without sobbing. He should have been sitting here with me, wearing one of his many Steeler shirts, yelling at the t.v.

We're here for you, you are not alone.

Hugs,
Janie

JerreR - I am so sorry to hear of your loss, I am just at the 4 month mark in this journey. I have found that DS has helped me alot - especially with the questions that I have had. I also find that journaling helps me to get my feelings out with out having to burden another.

We are all here for you - the loss of a spouse, or life partner, is devastating, and takes time to work through. You have taken a great step by reaching out to others who do understand what you are going through.

Thoughs and prayers are with you and your family, and a big HUG for you. - cd

Jerre,
I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you joined us here.
You have a heavy load to bare with your mum's illness
. Grief can be be enough to carry without any added stressors.
I hope it helps you,to know, we are here for you, day and night......
Just a click away on your computer.
We are a big supportive family here.
Love and hugs,......Sandra

When I read your post I thought I was almost reading what I could have written. My husband died on November 25 and was also 58 years old. We were married for 38 years and were high school sweethearts. I find myself also lost. The evenings are what are hardest for me. Eating supper alone and watching our favorite TV shows alone. I will see or hear something that I think I need to tell him and remember he is not there to tell. I am so thankful for my two grown children (and wonderful daughter-in-law) that make sure mom is doing fine, even though I know they are also hurting.

I myself, also work part time, from home. I find myself in a frequent fog, some days are foggier than others. Some days are blessedly sunshiny.

I am thankful I found this site and have been following the posts for a few weeks now but felt I just had to reach out to you because of the similarities. Because of this, I just joined Daily Strength.

November was not a good month. I lost my husband on Nov. 9. The first two months I was in a fog and it was comforting to look at his picture, look at his favorite chair, hug his pillow at night and I thought it would get better.

But now the fog is lifting and I am sadder and cry more often. My son who is single came to spend 4 days with me and it was wonderful. I had someone to cook for; someone else in the house, etc.

I just want to feel happy again, as we all on this site want to feel. I don't think there is a quick fix. I feel like my life is over. All our retirement plans are gone, those road trips, working in our garden, etc.

I am so sorry that we are all dealing with this. It is something I thought would never happen and that Al and I would grow old together.

Linda

Jerre, it's been 21 months for me and suddenly, the fog is back. I'm having bouts of deep sadness and all I want is for Morey to hug me well again.

We need to take our time with this "grief" thing and not expect too much from it.

The changes in our heads and bodies will just have to be for now.....I won't try to chase the blues away.....we're on this ride together. I'll hug you, if you'll hug me!

Roz

I lost my husband on November 20th. Two months for me too. I am doing better than I was last month, but not as good as I need to be. I am usually kind of critical of myself, but honestly, I am giving myself a break here. I lost the one person who knew me to my absolute core. Take it one day at a time, one moment at a time. Fake it till you make it and lean on the people here and in your support system.