Hi George, I think it is normal sometimes for people to lose their appetite while grieving. I had the opposite experience; it was only after my husband passed that I could eat. The last month of his life was so stressful. Until Hospice got involved, I was a nervous wreck because he was too confused to reason with and I was afraid he would get out of bed to use the bathroom and fall and break a hip. His hip bones were so weakened by the cancer that it would not have taken much. In addition, he was waking me up about every hour or so throughout the night, so I wasn't getting much sleep OR food. Once he died, I relaxed, as awful as that might sound................but I don't really think it IS awful. The horrible crisis had passed.

But as to your situation, yes, I think it is normal. I know it is hard but please try to eat something. It is very important to take care of your health right now because grief weakens our immune systems. I know it can be hard to find something to eat. I had cancer at the same time that my husband did and, as a result, there are a number of foods that I cannot physically swallow and a number more that just don't appeal to me. What I do is this: I try but I do not force myself. If I can't eat, I can't eat. I just put it in the fridge and re-heat it later. If I eat my dinner at 10pm, I eat my dinner at 10pm. Better at 10pm than not at all. I try to keep to a regular time schedule for meals but I am not rigid about it. Hope that helps.

I lived on fries and wine for longer I care to admit. I started cooking again when I had a reason like having someone over for supper. In the mean time I would suggest protein shakes

George,
I never remember kilos to pounds, but I lost 25 pounds in about 3 weeks when my husband died. My appetite totally deserted me for about 8 months. For the first months, I would have to force myself to eat because it all tasted like saw dust in my mouth. I was in total shock, as I suspect you are. Later on, I just didn't feel like eating but I would try to eat at least two meals a day.

The deeper problem, adelphos mou, is that you have lost your joy, your spirit for living, and that does not come back so easy. You have to nurture the small seeds of happiness and let them grow naturally. When you do that, your appetite will return and life will be back in some kind of balance. Give yourself time, try to hydrate yourself, try to eat a little bit. When your appetite does come back, go out to a small tavern for me, order a glass of retsina, a bitter green salad with lemon and olive oil dressing and a plate of merides for me. This was the first meal I had with my husband on Rhodes on our honeymoon. If I close my eyes and concentrate, I can still taste it.
Hugs,
Val

Hi George, Just sit back and relax with your candle light and music, and soothe your emotions and spirit with a nice hot cup of chamomile tea to make you relax and sleepy, fruits and salads are good and easy on the digestion system, and for protein and potassium drink a warm glass of almond milk, with maybe a piece of whole grain bread in the evening. Your body and spirit are in shock and trauma and any invasion like food or a heavy meal is too much. I lost 20 pounds inside of 3 months when John was in the hospital, acute care, ICU, then finally hospice. Too much shock to the body, even now 14 months later, so now I have gone totally vegan, no red meat, in my lifestyle to keep my system calm and smooth. You have to go through your journey of grief nice and easy, calm and quiet, don't fight your emotions to take good care of yourself. Time will go by quickly and as each minute, hour, day, month passes you will find yourself again. Just keep coming back here to talk to us, to express and release your feelings and emotions. Take care.
Hugs, Nanette

Hi there I know what it is like to have Cancer I am 2 years post cancer treatment for throat, I was/am still recovering from treatments during cancer, I also lost my husband 3 weeks ago today, he was my best friend, my partner in crime, he was my caregiver.. I was just getting used to the "new normal" after my cancer treatments from the life long side affects. Now I am faced with the "new normal" of losing him and becoming a single mother to our 11 year old boy. I feel your pain, before hubby died i didn't have much of an appetite and now since he is gone I don't have an appetite I have to force myself to eat most days.. I would rather crawl in bed and stay there all day but I have to keep going for my 11 year old and my adult kids and grandkids. I totally understand where you are coming from <3

George, I'm so sorry for your loss..I too lost 30 pounds in about 3 months time..
My husband loved good food and a good whiskey and water...He passed suddenly in his sleep and I found him..No warning.he hadn't been sick..We had a wonderful day, the day before he passed.
Where I live we have beautiful mountains, where we would sit on our deck, talk, have a drink and dream of future adventures, we would take.. He talked about out much he loved me, our kids and grand kids..How grateful he was for his life and how happy he was..We were getting ready to go camping with our kids at the end of the week...
George, we were married at 19 for 50 years, Dennis was a young 70...We have 3 daughters 6 grand children and 2 great grand children..I think what a lot us feel after we lose our loves...is guilt..what right do we have to be enjoying life and even eating good food, when they aren't here to enjoy it with us or did I do every to help them....and..regret.for what might been...
George.. eat when you feel like it..drink of plenty fluids..talk to friends and family members.
Just give it time..You have to go straight through grief, there are no short-cuts..You'll never stop loving your love..You'll just have a different kind of normal...Come here often George, there are some wonderful people here, who are on the same life journey as you..and are willing too share.
Its been 16 months and 2 weeks for me..I find I now smile more often..Watch for signs from your love, George...I've had many from my skeptic....
Take care George...hugs and prayers...Happy trails...Gail...
Grieving is a necessary passage and a difficult transition to finally letting go og sorrow..not a permanent rest stop...Dodinsky..

Sorry, George for some of the spelling errors..should be ..finally letting go of sorrow..I need to proof read before posting...;-)