Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I lost my wife of 10 years 4 weeks ago. She was in the ICU unit at Shands Hospital for four weeks waiting for a liver transplant. They put her on the transplant list the last week she was alive. She began having internal bleeding that could not be stopped. They took her off the transplant list and she died two days later. I never left her side the entire time she was there. I would talk to her, hug her and tell her she was going to be ok. She could not talk back because she had a breathing tube in her mouth, but she could nod her head yes and no and she could reach out for hugs. I was holding her hand and telling her how much I loved her when she passed. I never imagined it was possible to hurt so bad inside. I feel turn apart inside, any and everything reminds me of her. I am in a daze most of the time anymore. I am lost with out her. People tell me I will forget in time. The problem with that is I don't want to forget. Does the pain ever stop? sorry for rambling on. I just do not know what to do any more. Scott
I too am sorry to hear of your loss, the loss of a spouse is something that only one who has endured it can understand. I lost my wife of 24 years, just a little over a year ago, the first few months I was in a fog, and unrelenting pain. It does get a bit easier as time goes on, but at least for me it hasn't stopped. I still think of her everyday, and miss her.
Please during this time remember to take care of yourself, eat, sleep, and take time for you. We all know it is not easy to do these things, but they are so important.
I hope that you find this forum as usefull and helpful as I have.
We are all here for you.
Hugs - Craig