Please know that you have come to the right place. We have all experienced loss and have had to deal with the same emotions. Take advantage of the support offered here. Reach out to family and friends. If you belong to a church, turn to the church as well. I found that a therapist helped me through the first very, very difficult months.

Hello,

I am sorry you lost your husband. It is a hard journey to travel and everyone has differnet paths to take to get through this horrible time. you need to take things minute by minute and not try to over do things. Let your emotions pour out and ask for help when you need it. Your family and friends will not know the pain and hurt and loneliness you are feeling unless thay have lost their spouse, you have to try to explain it to them if they will listen, that way they can help you better. you should for sure go to your doctor and let them know how you are feeling and not eating, I did after my husband passed and they were very helpful. This place here has been the most help to me and the people here understand and are very supportive, loving , kind and do not judge.
Peace and Love to you
Laurie

I am so sorry for your loss and yet welcome you to the group. My husband and I were first loves also. We met in high school and losing him was horrible for me. I'm thankful for this site and the friends I made here, because they understood the pain I was struggling with. We lose so much more than a person when a spouse dies. Our plan for the future as well as our present change.
I'm now one of the community leaders along with cliffskat (Martha) & marjoe ( Marsha). We are here to help you along the way. Sharon

I am so sorry for your loss. You need to take care of yourself, so if you canf eat or sleep I wouldstartwith your doctor. I was so exhausted from greivibg slrep was no problem. Eating and drinking water were. Come here often to read, veng whatever. We understand what your feeling and will hrlp anyway we can.
God Bless
Russ

Please accept my sympathy at the loss of your husband. As others here have said, you've come to the right place. After Sam died, I don't know how I would have survived the sadness and loneliness without this group! The door is always open, and the people here are always willing to listen.

Wishing you peace ...

You are at the right place. So many wonderful people hear to listen and share. My husband has been gone now for almost 6 months....I miss him terribly and the sadness is deep. Get involved with a group for bereavement at your local Hospice Center. My husband and I had been together 33 years and we did everything together....we even worked together......I miss him so much. I know that you feel(as I did) that you will never get thru this journey into grief but you will...slowly...you will.......... I was told the grieving never ends but the intensity of the grief will get softer. Peace to you my friend.

So sorry this has happened to you. I lost my wife 9 months ago today. You are going to be alright, everything you are feeling is normal. You will have many difficult days ahead. Make sure you get enough sleep. See your doctor if you have trouble doing so. The worst days will follow lack of sleep. Drink plenty of water, eat as best you can, though I know you may not feel like it. Take a good multivitamin, and a b-complex. Take the b-complex during the day, not in the evening, as it may keep you from sleeping.
There will be many hills and valleys. Let the tears come. Afterward you will feel more tired and relaxed. It cleanses toxins from the anxiety you are probably feeling. There are so many great people here who have been through this much longer than I, that are of great help whenever you have a question about anything. Comfort and prayers to you.
Robert

So sorry for your loss and glad you have found this site. We have all walked in your shoes and understand the feelings. The grief comes in waves and some describe it as a rollercoaster of emotions. What you are feeling now is "normal". Take care of yourself, speak with your doctor, let friends help you. Sleep usually comes eventually due to being exhausted from the whirlwind around you. You may feel like you are in a fog. And then later, reality hits. There are wonderful people here who will listen and offer suggestions. Hugs to you.

Im going on nine months. The beginning is so hard. Right now you are experiencing so many emotions and your brain is trying to catch up. Just breathe. Its hard and awful, please if you can see a therapist. it is truly helpful. My husband was my first boyfriend as well. We were together 7 years and I was 8 months pregnant with our second child when I lost him. Please be kind to yourself and take care of yourself. as much I miss john I am able to enjoy my kids and I can see a purpose in living so I can enjoy my kids. but that has just started to happen for me. in the beginning I didn't want to live. and I think a lot of people are like that. the saying one day at a time is very true.

I would like to suggest two books that were a great help to me. They are both written by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross: "On Grief and Grieving" and "On Life After Death". They were recommended to me and I immediately checked them out of the library. "On Life after Death" is a thin book and I read it in an afternoon during one of my more difficult times. When I was finished, I was physically drained but also felt a sense of peace. I subsequently purchased them and have picked them up to read again when I need support.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I too lost my husband 9 months ago and it has been really really hard...the loneliness and sadness. This place has sometimes been all that keeps me going. Lots of care and support here. We're like a community of very wounded soldiers that understand the battle of losing our spouses better than the outside world. It's comforting. Mary

You've come to the right place. The people here are going through the same as you, OR have gone through it already.

I am so sorry for your loss. You will go through many moods, and transitions as you heal. But you will heal. Welcome. Hugs.