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Message from my Husband

Truhal
Truhal
I moving in a few weeks so I'm going through my husband's things and throwing out stuff. It's hard. Like going down memory lane. In the midst of doing this I heard water running and discovered the people upstairs let their tub overflow. I ended up calling the office, mopping, scrubbing, all the while thinking this was something my husband would have done. But now I'm alone.

After getting everything cleaned up, I went back to sorting and discovered our honeymoon pictures. That did it. I completely broke down. I looked through each and every picture, crying, and begging God to come get me. I sat there on the side of the bed numb. And then I put the pictures away and went back to sorting. Less than five minutes later, I opened an envelope and found a card. It was not signed, just a card in an envelope that said the following:

Sometimes when we pray the Lord gives us our heart's desires. Other times, He Answers differently from what we'd hoped or expected, but no matter how God answers the prayers that are in your heart right now always remember that He loves you and wants what's best for you. You're in Good Hands. Take care.

Isn't that something. It's like a card from my husband. I'm still sad, but I think I can sleep now.
tessandbarney
tessandbarney
That's amazing and I'm so glad that card turned up to comfort you at such a low point. I'm constantly shocked at how quickly, in a flash sometimes, the emotions change from deepest despair to a glimmer of hope and back again. It really takes the stuffing out of you doesn't it. I don't know whether it's God's hand, I'm having a lot of trouble at the moment believing that there is anything after the loss of life, but sometimes, when you think you can't bear what's happening to you a moment longer, something lifts you a bit. I don't know if it's God or your loved one staying close to you or just the survival instinct kicking in but it's enough to give courage for just that next step. I hope you sleep peacefully.
Mgould
Mgould
I have always heard that 50% of widows believe they have had contact with their husbands after they died but it never knew the extent of it until my husband died and I joined this site. It is truly amazing and fulfilling to read stories like this. My daughter found a card in her dresser on valentines day from her dad that she doesn't remember from before. Maybe it was there before - we don't know - but it sure made her day.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I, too, believe I have had signs. GOD, conicidence or Jim's reaching out to me from beyond.....whatever....it has comforted me and given me answers in these troubling times. Just accept your card as a gift and enjoy the comfort it gives you. I hope your sleep was peaceful and that today is better. Hugs,Dianne
jerseydebbie
jerseydebbie
I also have received messages from my DH. Too many to list or describe here, but I can tell you that I feel his presence 24/7. He bought me a necklace for Christmas when he was first diagnosed with cancer and on the back is the inscription "I will always be at your side." There is 100% belief in that with me. It hurts, I yearn for him, and there are times when I cry, but it is all OK.

Be rest assured that the card was no coincidence at that particular moment. I do not believe there are coincidences in life. These things happen the way they are supposed to.

God bless and keep you - Debbie
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't believe in coincidences.........it was truly a gift for you..........after Norm's cardiac arrest he was on life support for three days.... in a coma.........I went home on Christmas Day to feed the animals and on my way upstairs I found a small gold box......it was my Christmas present from him.........I had seen the ads for Kay jewlers on tv and just mentioned if we ever got married again I would love that love knot ring****(we didn't buy big presents for each other).........and when I opened the box, there it was...........the love knot ring.

I cried my eyes out.........put it on, and rushed back to the hospital . Even though he was not responsive in any way.....I opened his eyelids just in case he could see how happy I was....sounds crazy but it was important to me .........he had gone to get it theeee day before Christmas Eve.

I was so sad we didn't have Christmas together.our favorite time.......but then it would have been ...........why wasn't he here for New Year's Eve.............I would not have been content with anything less than "always and forever" which is what we used to say to each other..........

So I, like you. will treasure any special time I am blessed with a presence or situation .............

Thanks for sharing that with us..........blessings
jerseydebbie
jerseydebbie
lkmeb, your ring story compelled me to share my latest. My DH will be gone a year next month. He was oh so very proud of our anniversary, especially when people would make a fuss when he told them how many years, which is sometimes rare today that people stay together and still actually love each other.

Our anniversary falls in July and in the past 3 weeks I have been compelled to shop for a white gold anniversary band. It will accompany my original wedding band on my left hand, but replace my original engagement ring.

I had plans to buy myself a nice piece of jewelry every birthday, anniversary and Christmas (if finances permitted); however, an anniversary band? All I can say is that it was not my doing, but DH planted the seed in my brain to do the shopping.

Clearly he knows as well as I do that I will always belong to him as he does to me.
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