Welcome Donna.....I am very sorry for your loss and quite at a loss for words....you have so much on your plate. The tears are normal, at just under 4 months I cry every day, sometimes all day.
I could not imagine having to hold it together for those sweet children.

It can be a very lonely walk, but the folks here are wonderful and we are all in this together.

Hugs
Jen

Oh Donna . . . I am so very sorry for your recent loss and current circumstance. Life can seem to be so unfair at times like this. My heart goes out to you . . . trying to hold all together with grandbabies and grieving your hubby. Wow. That's more of a burden than anyone should have to handle in a lifetime. However, I do believe that no matter what has been put on our plate, we can and will survive this unfortunate nightmare. Beyond survival, I also believe that we will grow beyond what we think capable of ourselves and discover that we are so much stronger than we think. I'm sure this sounds like senseless "babble" right now to you, but it's true. Meanwhile, hold on tight. This is not an easy journey, but know that we all here on DSWW are committed as a family to see each other through. So sorry you had to find us . . but we welcome you with open arms and understanding. Hugs and prayers, Dayna

Welcome Donna, to a site none of us wants to be a part of. Life deals us really tough hands sometimes and it sounds like you have a double whammy with the loss of your husband and the responsibility of raising your grandchildren by yourself! Don't be afraid to cry in front of them......they need to know how much you are hurting. It is one of life's lessons. Come here often....the people are wonderful and will always be willing to listen and help. And nobody will judge you if you decide to vent! Big AZ hugs to you.

Hi Donna.... I am so sorry for your loss.It's a hard journey, the first year I got so much strength coming here. It will get better.

Hi Donna, I lost my husband on April 21st, and have received great support and comfort here. My heart breaks for you and your grandchildren. Come here every day and it will help to be here with those who know your pain. Kim

Donna,
I am so very sorry for your loss. It is the most difficult thing to go through. You have the blessing of have your 4 little granddaughters to take care of. You are strong !! You reached out, here for support and encouragement.
Cry all you need, my grandchildren cried with me. They seem just "to know".....and yours, will "know" too.
We are all here to lift you up, when you need us,
Have a peaceful Goodnight..........Big hugs......Sandra

welcome Donna, please come here often, it is a place full or warm supportive members who always have wisdom to share. this board has become my go to place - I always know they will understand and that someone has been through what I am experiencing. And I am so sorry for your loss.

Donna, I'm so very sorry for your loss.
You've come to the right place. The people here are supportive and kind. We all know how heartbroken you are, we've all walked this journey.
One day at a time, that's all we can do.

Hugs,
Janie

thank you. I find myself crying more as the weeks pass on. but I wont cry in front of the kids. they are having a hard time with this.

Donna I am so sorry for your loss. I have a 7 year old who also doesn't like to see me cry but I have been told from a therapist that is actually does help them to see you cry. They can see that it is ok to be sad and release it through tears. Also I was told to tell them they can cry with you so they also can let go of some of the pain. My husband has been gone for 7 weeks and I still cry pretty much every day.
Hugs to you!
Jennifer

Hi Donna, I am so sorry, alow yourself to cry its part of healing
I lost my wife in febuary and everything seems to remind me of her, it is a tough road to be on

Oh! Donna, I'm so sorry for your loss, it hurts so much, I know!

It's a roller coaster and will change everyday.....Hold on, don't be afraid, you're not alone!

Much Love,
Roz

Hi Donna, and welcome. I am sorry for your loss and that you needed to be here, but glad you found us. I agree with the others about letting the kids see you mourn at least some of the time. I didn't do all my weeping in front of my kids, but we did cry together, grieved together, and it helped us all to do that. My kids needed reassurance that I would be okay, that they wouldn't lose me, and I think your grandkids will want the same, but it is important to let them know that grieving is what we do when we are trying to get used to having lost someone we love.

I also wanted to let you know about another group here at Daily Strength that you might want to add to your groups. It is called "Grandparents Raising Children" and might be good for you to get some support and feedback on the things you are facing with the kids as time goes on. Here is a link so you can find it:

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Grandparents-Raising-Children/support-group

I also wanted to let you know that the kids' school may be able to help with giving them some counseling. My younger son was still in school when my husband died, and my son received his counseling for free through the school psychologist and the school guidance counselor. I know school is about to end for the year, but it might be worthwhile to talk with them anyway.

When you are ready, there are other things we can recommend that might help, but I thought I would pass that info on to you now. I am sorry you need any of this! I understand the shock, the fear, the loneliness, and all the rest of it. Cliff died of a massive heart attack with no warning. I was only 50, and I became a single parent to two autistic sons in moments. I wasn't ready for that. Bit by bit, with a lot of help here, I rebuilt my life, and we came through it. You will, too.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

Donna...I am so sorry for your loss and I am sure this is a group you did not want to join...May you find some comfort here ..there really are some good people here always willing to help..sending out a hug

Donna, I'm sorry for your loss. Welcome to our group, it's a good place to also cry in the way we do here and you are not alone. As you can already see you'll receive much support and very, very good advice. Crying is necessary, please do not expect that you'll have much control of it and try to be patient with yourself.
Hugs,
Jean