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Loss so profound

Mamza
Mamza

Since loosing my husband of 18 years at just 48, and I am 41 I feel so lost. We have a teenaged boy who is my reason to even want to carry on. The 11th December 2016 will go down as the worst day of my life. I did not see this coming. How do I carry on? I'll trade just about anything to have my love back. The pain is too much. I have lost so much weight people are commenting on it. I don't know how to be without him. I miss him terribly. My joy was stolen. Devastated;(

Missmyanne
Missmyanne
I am so sorry for your loss. You are so young. My wife passed last July at the age of 53. Sudden cardiac arrest. She was here one minute and gone the next. The only advice I could give you is take each day hour and minute as they come. Stay strong for your son. He needs you more than ever right now. You are at about the 2 month mark I'm at about 7. I remember my 2 month mark. Wasn't easy. Still not at 7. Things will get progressively better. I know I will never be over this loss nor will you. All we can do is keep their memories alive remember all the good times and look forward to seeing them again when it's time to start our journey home. Peace love and hugs to you my friend.
jdp
jdp
It has been 3 years for me. It takes time as we each grieve in our own unique ways.
Give yourself credit for carrying on, do what you can.
Each day dawns & along with it comes new possibilities.
A local hospital or church may sponsor support groups, it's beneficial to talk with others who have experienced our loss.
It's little steps....
Our journey has changed, challenges come but keep the faith, we are survivors.
jdp
MrsLfromTX
MrsLfromTX
Mamza, It's barely any time at all that has passed for you. I think it's first shock then later comes the grief, mourning, anger etc. I lost my husband on 16 Oct 2014. I still have days I am so terribly sad and I have my doctor helping me and I have even seen a counselor. I think I am going to try to go back to the counselor again. But just know it's a time in your life that you will feel so many things. I am glad you have your son, a part of you and your husband. Talk with him, I know he is grieving too. Hold on to each other and remember your love for your husband.
I too was marrid 18 years. IT's not easy but you still need time. You can't see a huge change in your feelings after being with someone for 18 years and then they are gone. I hope you will see your doctor if you continue feeling very bad. I was like you too, losing weight not eating. It's better now but I went for help.
Talk to your husband, do things with your son even just playing catch outside or doing the lawn together. Something to do will help so much..
Take care ofyourself. I hope you have pleasant dreams. Just know grief is the hardship, mourning is your expression outward to others to talk about the one you loved. We all need time.
Wishing you the best.