I am absolutely heartbroken for you. Such a young age. Please know that we have all had these questions. You have all of us to vent to or lean on. Tough time for sure but you can and will get through it. If you have to be any where in this journey this is the best group of people you will ever meet. Hope you find some comfort. John.

I am so sorry for your loss. Things do better, but it takes time. Please be kind to yourself and try to nurture yourself. Take it one day, one step at a time. It is incredibly hard to lose your soul mate. You not only mourn the loss of them, you mourn the loss of your future. You will eventually build a new future, but it takes time. Know that we are here for you if you need to vent. We have all been where you are and we get it.

Hugs,
Val

I can't offer any insight as to when it gets better..my husband has been gone for 15 weeks and 3 days, and I feel the same way as you've described. It's just so unfair. If I didn't have my son, I don't know what would have happened to me. My heart goes out to you...I know how painful this is...

Jen....I am so sorry for your loss and your pain. I keep asking when it gets better too....my husband died in Jan. and the pain is still so raw.

Today has been a living hell.....

We all understand your pain, so please post as often as you need.

Hugs
Jen

Jenni . . whether it was a spouse of many years, or a fiance of a few . . the common thread is grieving the anticipated future. I'm so sorry that your future dream died along with your fiance. I was a newly wed (less than a year) when my hubby died, along with my my world of dreams. I do get it. I'm so sorry for your loss. So sorry you have been delivered this horrid grief journey on your life plate. We do somehow survive, and part of this said survival is in sharing and being a part of others' who have walked this journey before us. Thanks for sharing and keep coming back. We're here for you . . hugs, hugs, hugs . . Dayna

I cannot add anything to what the others have said. I know I am truly thankful for this support group. These people are amazing and they get you! It confirms the fact that we are not nuts, this is agony and we WILL get through this. It has been 8 weeks and 3 days for me. Still taking baby steps! Hugs and hugs to you and all! Michele

Baby steps, baby steps. Some days moment to moment. And somehow we do survive. The journey is not easy - in fact it's awful! But coming here was the best thing I ever did!

Still miss my sweetie, but people here understand and are very supportive.

Cry all you want, vent, grieve, let it out - and then take a deep breath and you will feel better for a while. Use this time for YOU, this deeply spiritual time and don't let others try to tell what's good for you or what to do with yourself and your time.
Sending warm hugs your way.

I am amazed how quiet a house can be. Even when our loved ones were here and maybe sleeping the house was not as quiet. Their presences is missing and it hurts. I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you but we here know exactly how you feel. We are living it as well.

I have all of your replies and well wishes and they touched me. It really is a small comfort to speak with people who are going through the same thing. No one can understand the loss of a partner better than people who are going through it. I have lost both my parents but the pain was no where near this loss. I guess because its a more natural order of things. I am thankful for my friends support but sometimes I just need to be alone, did anyone else feel that way?. I find that our home can either be a place of loss and the memories almost too much to handle or it has been my solitude where I can be alone and feel Danny. My friends want me to move but I want to stay here. I know that my life will continue . Thank you for all your kind words.

Dear Jennifer, yes it is important that we have alone time. I know it is hard as there are so many memories, but there are a lot of good ones, I am sure. You need time to grieve and keep your strength up. Do not make any changes in the first year. Danny is there with you for sure!!! I have felt Art's presence many times when I am alone and I focus on him. So sorry for you loss!! You have found a wonderful site where we are all family and get what you are going through. One moment at a time, one day at a time. It is a roller coaster ride so hang on tight. Hugs to you my dear. Sue

I am very sorry for your loss and all that it brings. I was married to my best friend and losing him was devastating. I went through the "if only 's" along with the "coulda, shoulda's " and the truth is that we had no control over the outcome. That in itself is hard to swallow. I felt my husband was too young for this. Then I met others who were younger and those who were older. It doesn't matter, the loss is unfair at any age.

I know it feels impossible right now, but you will slowly have better days. This ride is like a roller coaster of emotions. Baby steps through the bad times and savoir the moment of peace.

I'm one of the community leaders here along with Martha ( cliffskat ) and Marsha ( marjoe ). We lost our husband over 5 years ago and we are available to help you however you need. Sharon

Jennifer, my beloved wife of 36 years also passed away on May 17. Between bouts of anger, depression, crying and remembering, it is at times tough to get up and face the world. But I do it, and I do it for me, because it is important to go on and be there for the kids and grandkids.

It's barely been a month, and to me if feels no different than a month ago - painful, tragic, and gut wrenching,

One day at a time, and I find I feel better after the tears flow because I miss her so much.

Hang in there. The house is empty but the spirit and the memories are still there.

Joe

Hi Jennifer, I'm so sorry for your loss. My husband died April 21st, and each day without him is awful. I try to be positive, knowing he's in heaven, but in truth I'm in agony... Please come here often and we'll all take care of each other. Hugs and love, Kim

Darling, there is no quick way out of the pain . You just have to walk through it, one small step at a time. I find that even after 15 months I still prefer to be alone, in our home to lie down and cry and be surrounded by the memories of our life together. I work full-time, I put a smile on my face and I function as society would expect but I am forever changed by the cancer which took my husband away from me far too soon. I feel like a shadow of my former married self but I am growing stronger every day. You will be alright love. You will become stronger too.

Jennifer I lost my soul mate just 10 days ago in a tragic car accident. It not only claimed her life, but one of her daughters died as well. I just want you to know that you're not alone in this literal fight for survival. Like you, some days I just don't even want to get out of bed. There's nothing anyone can say or do, I guess it just takes time. This forum seems like a great source of support and I'm here if you ever need to chat with someone who knows firsthand what you're going through.