Reg. Lost my wife of 50 years the first part of June. You are on the right site. Some of the older guys will probably help you more than me. I have discovered that the first of what ever you two done together will be hard. But I now can say I can walk into a grocery store without tears running down my face. August 5th would have been her 69th birthday. I didn't do bad on that day, but the night before I lost it all. There are some nice people on this site, there are other groups you can visit. They will help too. God be with you.

He Reg, I lost my wife about 8 months ago and the pain is still very intense at times.

I can say the awful feelings have softened some and I hope as I continue, it will continue to soften. I hope they do the same for you.

I have said before, at first I wanted to kill myself from the loneliness and grief and now I just wish I was not alive anymore...that is a type of progress.

Take time and don't listen to anyone but your heart when it comes to what to do and when to do it...everyone is different. Only you know what the million little things mean to you and so only you can decide how to proceed.

Best wishes!
Joe

I lost my second husband 4.5 years ago. We were together for 36 years..what i remember is feeling as though I was not there either. Such a huge part of who you are is gone..never from your heart or soul but materially they are gone..I can tell you though in time life gets where your every thought is not about them as much but every day i still think of him. A song will play or other things and I have learned how to cope better with it i guess. I started working full time about a year after he died and my job is a blessing as i believe it keeps me sane ..I still wish he were here and I remember ( Hugs)

hi everyone many thanks for your kind words I am finding that the mornings are very tough at this moment I just seem to cry at the drop of a hat I know that times a great healer it fells that for the last 8 yrs everything as been sent to try me I have 2 children that are keeping me together I fell that I am the weakest link I just cant see any future a head which worries ever so much thanks to you all for listening god bless x

Hello to you as well, reg. I hope for you to feel very comfortable while visiting this community group. So many people in our situations need constant prayer to get through each day of struggles. You have two children keeping you together, that's great! However, fear of the unknown is drawing your power into your weakness. You are most likely a stronger link as you concentrate on your strength rather than the lowly moments.

Please keep focusing on your health needs and see your doctor when you feel the need to. I send today to you a beam of peace. I pray that God is a great light for you today.

Stay close to hope.

I lost my soulmate 3 months ago. I'm just waiting to die - I hope you're one of the lucky ones that things get better for.

hi there its Reg I am new to this I do know how you are felling its a dark road ahead I full well know that in the short time since my wife as past I have tried to take those small steps each day try to not be so hard on yourself I have 2 children that need there dad there are times when I just need to cry just let it out I keep telling myself there will some glimmer of light try to old on to that give yourself those small tasks one day at a time stay strong god bless

Hi Reg I lost my wife June 7 we were married for 20 years best years of my life. There are times I cry and I do. I talk to her at night time. Cris sends me signs she is with me signs when I need them the signs are falling of the fridge, red tail hawks, retiring I wasn't sure but she sent my son to me a he hugged me often that was her telling me to take care of our son. Take care of yourself

hi everyone felling ever so down the last few days i just cant seem to pull my self together i tend to cry ever so much i just keep questioning if i can go through with this i know i do not have any options i have got to do this for my kids i just prey that i can find the strength with in me thanks for listening love to you all reg

Hi reg.

I'm so sorry that you are hurting. Unfortunately, grief is a system in which you have to learn to tolerate it. Find options and teach yourself to survive; pain is as an addiction at times. And every nerve in your heart and mind is often screaming out for comfort. And why not? You are trying to live without your best friend, so, naturally, it does hurt, very much! You don't have to enjoy this experience, it will never end; however, try to find goals (if only temporary ones) or new ideas to help keep you in touch with life. Don't feel guilty about doing things for yourself. Your wife would want this. And you may need to explore this experience while visiting with a good, qualified grief or bereavement therapist to guide you to the comfort zone. Recovery is a long and hard road to travel, yet help is nearby.

Best wishes, reg. See to yourself right away. I hope the best.

Hi I just lost my husband June 20th I'm struggling today too . I really miss him. Most days I do okay I go to work walk my dogs talk to my kids. I was off work today so it is rougher for me on those day. If you ever want to talk I will be glad to

morning everyone had a tough day yesterday my emotions were ever so high just couldn't get a grip of my self went to visit my sisters and cried for most of the visit I have had great support from everyone which is fantastic only people who are going through these losses understand your pain its a good job
I have 2 strong children that are keeping me going I am trying to keep my self occupied most days which does help its just that wave that comes over you that makes me so vulnerable lets hope that as time goes buy I can control these emotions a bit better I would love to talk so we could get some comfort from each other thanks for listening reg

I am going through the same thing. I was married for 28 years (in November) and I feel so lost without my husband. I am 58 and retired from public education in 2019. We thought we were beginning the next chapter in our lives and had all of these plans. My love was 9 years my senior but very active physically so it came as a total surprise when he passed away unexpectedly after suffering a stroke that he should have been able to recover from. It is so hard for me to wrap my head around the fact that he is gone just one year after becoming empty nesters. I didn't plan on today being a rough day but it has been. It seems rainy, stormy days cave my world in.

Morning its the day of the funeral really nerves and heart broken i hope you all are staying strong and you can send me some of your strength to get us through this tough day a head for me and the kids god bless to you all Reg

Strength. ((Gentle Hugs))