Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
After almost 26 yrs. of marriage, my husband passed away from sudden cardiac arrest (2 years ago). It happened 1 month after my mother died from a long term illness. I have 2 daughters, now ages 20 & 22, that suffer from mental illness, substance abuse, etc. Both daughters live about 90 miles away from me.
A little over 3 months after my husband died, I entered into a relationship with John who was a friend to my husband and I for over 12 years. I was the one that pursued John. If I had a do over, I would have waited longer, but what's done is done. John is a wonderful man, makes me laugh, and I love him dearly. I loved my husband with all my heart and we had a great marriage. I will never "get over" him, he will always be a part of me. John is not a replacement for my husband...there is no replacement.
My children do not live with me. My daughters are upset that I started dating John so soon after their dad died, understandibly. At present, John and I have been together for about 1 1/2 years, and we live together.
How do I tell my daughters and family that John and I are living together? I don't want to get anyone's approval or comments, I just don't want it to be a secret. I live in a vacation community, and expect that family will want to visit and stay in my home this summer (which I would like). I've thought of just sharing my news in an email, to try and keep it low key. Any thoughts??
A little over 3 months after my husband died, I entered into a relationship with John who was a friend to my husband and I for over 12 years. I was the one that pursued John. If I had a do over, I would have waited longer, but what's done is done. John is a wonderful man, makes me laugh, and I love him dearly. I loved my husband with all my heart and we had a great marriage. I will never "get over" him, he will always be a part of me. John is not a replacement for my husband...there is no replacement.
My children do not live with me. My daughters are upset that I started dating John so soon after their dad died, understandibly. At present, John and I have been together for about 1 1/2 years, and we live together.
How do I tell my daughters and family that John and I are living together? I don't want to get anyone's approval or comments, I just don't want it to be a secret. I live in a vacation community, and expect that family will want to visit and stay in my home this summer (which I would like). I've thought of just sharing my news in an email, to try and keep it low key. Any thoughts??
I am very happy in my relationship with John, and love him dearly. He is one of the kindest, sweetest people I have ever known. I don't think my family understands this at all, so I am hesitant to tell them John and I are living together. I need some courage!!!