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This is it, this is the end. Saturday morning my son in law gets a uhaul and takes what I have left in my house and puts it in storage since I have not real apartment yet. My daughtesr apartment is so severly crammed with our stuff we cannot even function and now we will have two cats there too. We are separating them with a gate and praying they can get along.
I have never felt so depressed in all my life. I gave away all our furntiure and belongings, yet still have too much stuff to fit anywhere. I cannot believe that I will never wake up here to the sound of the birds and quiet. I will never walk outside in teh early morn and feel the clean air. I will be back in brookln where I started when I met Joe. Yet now I cannot just pick up the phone and call him like we did all day long. Everytime I go there I want to call him like old times. I will never again go upstate with him and enjoy each other. I will be stuck in the hot upstairs apartment all summer praying for relief like I did before I moved to his house here.
I am being whiny and complaining and i am so sorry. but i have no job to go to any longer to talk with others and i feel useless, sick and a waste of life. I was the one who was suppose to leave this earth, not Joe. His family has tried everything to stop the sale from going through so I would foreclose on the house. Now they are starting on a lawsuit again for a totalling different thing. I cant stand anymore torture. I truly cant. I have lost everythign, what more do they want from me? I cannot understand. I am so down, I just do not want to wake up tomorrow, please dear God, just give me peace too.
I hate to be a bummer to everyone, I jsut had to tell someone. Ann
I have never felt so depressed in all my life. I gave away all our furntiure and belongings, yet still have too much stuff to fit anywhere. I cannot believe that I will never wake up here to the sound of the birds and quiet. I will never walk outside in teh early morn and feel the clean air. I will be back in brookln where I started when I met Joe. Yet now I cannot just pick up the phone and call him like we did all day long. Everytime I go there I want to call him like old times. I will never again go upstate with him and enjoy each other. I will be stuck in the hot upstairs apartment all summer praying for relief like I did before I moved to his house here.
I am being whiny and complaining and i am so sorry. but i have no job to go to any longer to talk with others and i feel useless, sick and a waste of life. I was the one who was suppose to leave this earth, not Joe. His family has tried everything to stop the sale from going through so I would foreclose on the house. Now they are starting on a lawsuit again for a totalling different thing. I cant stand anymore torture. I truly cant. I have lost everythign, what more do they want from me? I cannot understand. I am so down, I just do not want to wake up tomorrow, please dear God, just give me peace too.
I hate to be a bummer to everyone, I jsut had to tell someone. Ann
I am glad you have DS to be able to share your hurting heart.
Hugs to you, Sal
I am so sorry for all of your pain and losses. Almost did not respond to your post because I couldn't think of anything helpful to say. But I had to reach out to remind you that people here do care about you even if it seems no one else does right now. If you pray, I hope you find some comfort in that connection with your higher power. My prayers are with you. Stay close to your friends here.
xoxox
Reaching out my hand to you...hold on through this...
Sending peace and comfort...
You have every right to feel the way you do and it is not whiny or complaining it is telling it like it is.
Please do not feel yourself unworthy as you know what you and Joe had can never be taken from you. Live on like he would have wanted and honor his memory.
His family is being so terribly uncaring and it hurts to think there are people out there and all they can think of is their gain at a time like this. I say to &%$# with them that is their problem. I know it still hurts and they are draggin you down further but try and stay strong for you and Joe.
Always know that you have friends here that care..........hugs
You are NEVER WHINING nor COMPLAINING.
I can't begin to understand what can possibly be inside someone's mind to do the things the family has been doing, or why this happens. I wish I did, but come to think of it I'm glad I can't. Someday this will also happen to them. Then and only then will they know what they have done here now.
Please try to just concentrate on YOU now, and what YOU have to do and how to get through all of this for YOU. You KNOW more than anything that Joe loved you with all he had. YOU had that and NO ONE can ever take that from you. Not even those who want to hurt you. YOU had and HAVE his love.
I hope you'll let us know when you are moved, and I hope it's still with your daughter? At least you will have someone there with you, and I hope that it helps with the minneirres and the lyme desease too. I'm just so sorry you are going through any of it.
Please KNOW that you have friends here who care and are always here to listen. Can't do much else i know, but we are here and we care.
SENDING HUGS to you and HOPES that this move will help YOU in YOUR healing. don't worry about anyone else now except for YOU!!!
Love diane
I was also within that month taken to court 2x. over the house. I definitely feel your pain. I pray you get thru this period and get everything settled soon. Hugs to you. Gwen
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You must try to do something kind for yourself. Be gentle with yourself. You
have a lot to deal with.
This is a safe place. Here you can cry, yell, scream, whine, complain and WE UNDERSTAND.
I pray for you to hae comfort and peace.
Hugs and a moment to smile,
Vicki
1- he died late 2010 this is 2012 what is the deal?
You need to see a elderly law estate person to put an end to this once and for all.
2. You have to know he would want you to take care of yourself for you, as hard as it is, some how taking those baby steps someway
3. A bummer to us, ok, we've been there done that, gosh I am well over my limit...but here I find I can shout out and tell someone to get an opinion right or wrong, and get it off my chest. So please continue -
4. We hope some words will help you not be so down, knowing that is also hard to do esp. in such hardship issues like this.
SO all i can offer is a prayer and a big hug from PNW!