I think he was trying to protect you. You're very vulnerable right now in these early days, and it could be dangerous for you to be drinking with strangers in bars at this stage. I'm not quite old enough to be your Mom, but I am old enough to be your big sister, and if you were my sister, I wouldn't let you do it. But then a lot of people tell me I'm crazy, and call me a lot worse than that....

Please do be careful, whatever you do.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

Thanks Martha that could very well be that Kennon was protecting me. I am vulnerable. so I will be more careful. thanks, Donna

Donna, I am old enough to be your mother, and I agree with Martha 100%. We all know how lonely it is at this stage of your grief, but, Hon, you are playing with fire. It's your life and your grief and it's your decision to deal with both as you want, but if I were your mother, I would be extremely worried. Even though you've lost your dad and your husband, you are still important. Just make sure you know that in your heart and mind, so that you don't allow anyone to take advantage of you or hurt you even further. Take care.

Hugs,
Linda

Could go either way, if you gave the poor guy a short description of why the sudden tears his reaction would give the answer.

Supportive & kind response he might be one to see again, if not it's a warning.

You can learn a lot from how someone responds in such a situation, maybe it was time to get those answers.

thank you all for your responses. Sailor 60, the guys reaction was kind and of concern. I'm going to be cautious to proceed. My husband will be gone 3 months this wednesday. Donna

Decent enough on the face of it then, maybe a friend in the future.

Cautious makes sense as the gals commented earlier, not a great time to rush anything.

Wow! I had that song played during mine's memorial service too! So touching. Yes, I believe they watch over us and can send messages to us if we are willing to be open to them. Three months is not much time. I'm 7 months out and still reeling with emotion; breaking down crying over things others may think is trite. Take your time, dear. I'm in agreement with Martha and some of the others here. Big hugs.
-Becca

yes I will be cautious, thank you everyone for the feedback. Thank you Becca, that Silver Wings I thought I would never hear that song again after Kennon's memorial. I'm starting to cry more often because I'm halfway done with all the paperwork, I had 2 sets to do. Hugs, Donna

Donna,
I appreciate your honesty with us so I will do the same. You need to take some big, deep breaths and slow down. I, personally, think that it's too soon for you to be out on a date. You need to take care of your feelings right now. You need to stop and think and not rush into anything right now.

Anyone worth seeing will be there for you when you've taken the time to take care of you. YOU are very important right now.

I wish you peaceful days ahead,
Roz

I agree with Roz..

Hi Donna, . It seems like your trying to run away from the grief. I can relate to that. It's best to work through it. It does seem that Kennon is watching over you.
There are other methods of dealing. Try exercising. Walk, or join a gym. It's amazing how much better you would feel.
Music is good therapy.
If you want to go to karaoke bring a girlfriend or two and make a pact to leave with together. . Wishing you strength as you heal. Hugs, Dolores

I do believe that Kennon lovingly sent you that song for a reason. He knew it would get your attention, and youd know it was from him. Not sure what that reason is, but it is wonderful that you got his message and are thoughtfully and being open to figuring it out.

I was told by several people to not do anything big, for atleast a year. dating, selling/buying a house etc. Not sure if its a good or bad thing Just be careful and listen to your womans intuition. big hugs, carla