Widows & Widowers Support Group

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Nicker07 09/05/2011

I just cried and cried as my son & family drove away. Maddox, 2yrs 3 months quite the character, and so much love.

I so do not want to be here anymore. Terribly worried if I do not find another pt job I am sunk.
That worry is so so hard right now....

Brighter note: Wedding was nice - simple both married before. Had nice BBQ for family and friends yesterday with small ceremony eve before with immediate family. He was om 7th grade, she just moved to freshmen she made his sister tell him she could not be with him anymore because he was too young. 27 yrs later here they are.

I may have to drop my health insurance to get by - I do not think WA state has a basic health coverage for all anymore....but ya gotta do what ya gotta do....

jillieg 09/05/2011

I'm glad that you had a beautiful day with your family yesterday. I know it is so bittersweet for those moments...my son and his gf just got engaged on Saturday and I am SOOOO happy for them...but so sad because Mike couldn't be here to see their joy...he really loved Justin's girlfriend too..
that health ins. stuff is so stressful...we had to pay for our own for many years until I got my current job. At the time we were paying, it was up to almost $800/mo and that was over 9 years ago! Praying that you can find the best thing for you...whether it is getting your property sold for the right price, the best parttime job for you or anyother concern you may have. Peace in your heart today Diane...hugs, Jill

lovelos 09/05/2011

Nicker I am so sorry, it is so hard to see our family drive away knowing we are going to be alone again. I am thankful you had a good day yesterday. I will pray for you that you find a job soon, hugs Lu Ann

Judymc04 09/05/2011

I can so relate to family leaving. I had my 2 little grandsons since Friday night and I had to take them back today. They were the perfect diversion for a long holiday weekend which I knew would be hard. It was so wonderful hearing laughter in this house again. With a 2 & 5 year old to look after, there's no time for self-pity or being lonely. Now that they're gone, it's back to being lonely and alone again. Good luck in your job search. Hope you find something soon.

cleodoggie 09/06/2011

Glad you had a good day for the Wedding. Sorry your family had to leave. My fingers are crossed for you to find a job.. Hugs

deleted_user 09/06/2011

So sorry you are going through this. I just had a little gathering this weekend, and when they left, I felt sad - I can't imagine the pain of family going away. It's very hard out there. Hold on, and try to stay positive - that will help your health, and your attitude will have a large part in getting a job. Think of all you've gone through already - and how you survived the hardest thing in your life - becoming a widow. I'm thinking of you and wish you success. I'll be looking for a celebration journal for you finding a job (with cake (?). Vicki

deleted_user 09/06/2011

Nicker07- You're in my thoughts - I'm glad for you that yesterday was enjoyable with your son and his family because that's a big part of what helps keep us going.
It may not feel like it right now but in reading your posts, seems to me you're a pretty strong lady - just try to keep hanging in there, things will turn around for you. Deni

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