Widows & Widowers Support Group

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mygoosey
mygoosey
I have been reading this forum since my husband passed away and have found it so comforting and makes me feel not so alone. Today it is 13 weeks and 2 days and I am just so sad, the tears won't stop. I know everyone says it just takes time but it is so HARD. He was (is) the love of my life and although I know he is gone, I just want him back. We were married for over 43 years and it is all so overwhelming. I know life has to go on but the pain, anxiety, lonliness and sadness just won't go away. I know you all know how I am feeling but I just wanted to thank you all for all the thoughts and support you give on this forum. If I could, I would give you all a hug!
alliepoo
alliepoo
It is very hard, the loneliness is so difficult, the roller coaster ride is still going and I'm at 6 months. I am so much better, but it does still hit when you least expect it. It helps to come on here and talk with people who get it. Prayers for you!
onemorehug
onemorehug
It has been 7 months for me. Today has been a very long day. Hate being alone. Wish I could have my husband back for even 5 minutes. I know you all feel the same way. This is one "club" I wish we didn't all belong to. Hugs to everyone!
athankfulone
athankfulone
There must be something in the air....it has been particularly rough for me today, too. I cannot stop crying. ALL day. I am sending out thank you notes to the people who were so generous with their donations in my husband's name. And each note I write only makes it worse!

I too, feel like this group is my life line.

Pathetic, huh. That I am spending so much time in front of a machine for comfort. Yup. A lousy club to belong to, but glad it is here... 5 weeks, two days to the moment...
ohsolost
ohsolost
Did anyone ever believe that our heart really CAN hurt? After Darrell's heart stopped and he was pronounced dead, I remember leaving the hospital and meeting 2 of the girls who were part of our ICU waiting room "family." I collapsed into one of their arms and kept saying, over and over, "My heart hurts...it REALLY hurts!"

And then came the sadness, numbness, loneliness and tears - the never-ending tears. (It's been 18 months, now, and they still come; although not as often or as painful). After several months of this, I found that I just had to "go with it." Struggling only made it worse. The tears and emotions just came - not at the most convenient times, I might add - and I eventually said, "Uncle."

But, a strange thing happened somewhere between there and here. I began to smile, then laugh, then feel happy - yup! happy! And all that gloom lifted, very slightly at first, then a little more and a little more.

I am now a whole person. A whole lot different, but an entire emotional being. I still miss Darrell - always will. But, now he's tucked away safely in his special niche in my heart. Wherever I go, he goes. If I want to talk to him, he's right here with me. And, no matter what my future without him, he wanted me happy while we lived our lives together...why would he want any less for me now that he's no longer physically here?

I hope this gives you some comfort as you struggle with your pain.

Hugs,

Terry