I am so sorry for your loss. The next few weeks will be a blur. You will do nothing but cry, you will forget to shower and eat. Hopefully you have a couple of good friends who will be there for you and will call and text and will remind you to do simple things like eat. The people who you considered good friends might even avoid you. You will find friendships you never knew you had. I am 8 weeks in and I am just starting to feel a bit normal again. I still feel like I am on autopilot but those first few weeks are rough. Once everyone leaves and you are alone to deal with your life it can be overwhelming. Give yourself time, and let yourself cry. If the clothes aren't clean or the dishes washed, it is OK. You can do them another day. You need to focus on your and your son. One day at a time or one minute at time if a day is too much. My prayers are with you.

I am so sorry for your loss. It is so new to you. I'm sure you will feel alot of different emotions in the weeks to come. You will do alot of crying don't be hard on yourself don't do anything you don't want to do. I was married for 24 years when my husband passed I was a total mess for about 7 months the first two months I don't remember much. It has been 15 months and I still struggle.Try to be strong if not for yourself do it for your son. One day at a time.

I am so sorry for your pain. I am only at the almost 8 week stage. Still a blur, some days ok, others so bad. I was married for 21 years. Together for 24 years, with him for more than half my life. to share so much love and life with your soul mate leaves a huge hole when he dies. I agree with freebee, one day at a time. I had my dad with me till 3 weeks, but knew i had to stand on my own again sooner than later, i am a gogo person, so that worked for me. It is absolutely your choice how fast or slow you want/ need to go. I have 2 kids as well., 18 and 20, it helps to.nit be alone, even though i need alone time as well. I joined a group on facebook as well, get advise and strength from there as well. Remember you are not alone, so.many going through this pain. We all think of each other. Hugs and strength from me to.you

My deepest sympathy for you and your son.i too lost my better half a mos.ago.i know the pain will be unbearable when it hits.i started seing a therapist cause the pain is just too much.these might help you
When things becomes so overwhelming.the therapist
Helps a lot.hang in there you have a boy that needs his mama.
Prayers for you both

So very sorry for you and your son.
My wife just passed on March 1, and my head is still spinning, so don't push yourself to get things "together". I learned that things will just have to wait until I can pull myself together.
Don't let things or people rush you through anything - it can all wait.

I'm afraid that's the only advice I can give.

I can't imagine what all this has been like for you and your son.
Hard as it' going to be, and I expect it's going to be unimaginably hard---from a purely practical standpoint, one mom to another, I would say you almost have to begin with your son. Consider whether to try to "normalize" his life as much as possible, while still addressing his grief and his loss, his pain and his fear. If not you, who?

Heartbroken though you have to be, at 7.5 years old, I doubt your son could possibly comprehend the huge full weight of the impact this momentous "event" on his life, and on his future, but he is undoubtably as heartbroken and lost as you are, and terrified besides.
Even if you do not choose professional grief counseling for yourself, you might seek out some in support of your son, perhaps even some with your son. You will have to decide at the onset of each day, every day, just how much of this nightmarish rolling disaster and your own heartbreak, your own struggles and how much of the bulk of the entire world shift that his father's death has created.. that you want him to see and experience in full.

Sadly, while you weren't able to rescue your spouse, though you desperately tried, I think now, you need to consider carefully how to go about rescuing your son, while not, at the same time, wrapping him in cotton batting. OR quashing what remains of his natural childhood. Tough, tough balancing act that is going to be.

Consider tthatboth of you will be dealing with your spouse's loss for the duration from now on, but your son has a lot longer distance to travel, while carrying much the same baggage as you, and having lost his major role model on how a man deals with such things, and fully half of his entire world.

That leaves you, Mom, and all the best resources you can possibly rally together from all sides. Your title may have changed from "wife of" to "widow of".... But you are still and always Mom.

One moment at a time. That is how you get through the first few months. Good thoughts and hugs out to you.