I have a few I'd like to deck also, and they wonder why we isolate.
With comments like, "wow, 7 months, has it been that long? Time flies, see you're fine" Really!? 37 years and I'm fine in 7 months? It takes longer than that to make a baby!

Before that was,"you really should come join us, people want to see you". Excuse me, did I move?

Jewells,
That poem is perfect!! I'd like to wear it on a t-shirt or sandwich board.
DorothyJoan

Someone said to me tonight...I know you are still missing your husband. Like I should be over it after 5 months. I said I will always miss him.

Those comments are so out of line. These people are beneath your friendship. "This, is the last time you and I will speak", turn and walk away. I think that is what I will do if anyone ever makes this mistake with me. I have experienced the know how you feel BS. Sorry, losing a parent is tough, been there, twice, not the same. Not even close. As everyone has previously posted, unless someone has experienced this horror show for themselves, they are clueless, and unqualified to give advice, pep talks, or comparisons. The poem posted by Jewels was perfect. It should be required reading before speaking to a widow or widower. Sorry you had contact with these morons Bandi. You're too good for them.
Robert

I went to our senior center shortly after my husband passed away and was not my usual upbeat self. The receptionist whose sister passed away two years ago from cancer asked what was wrong with me and then made the statement "I know what's wrong with you, your damn husband died on you." I could not believe she could say something like that. She and her sister were very close and tore her apart. I supported her, went to the funeral and tried to encourage her. We are not young, we are in our seventies. So I keep my distance. Her husband left her after 42 years of marriage, so I thought maybe she is angry and projecting it on me.

Thank you, everyone! Your support is uplifting.

Very upsetting to know "ignorant" people in this world, even when we need them most. You show better restraint that I would have.

Next time someone says something like this to you, ask them "and exactly what would you do if your were in my shoes?" Or tell them "since you are such a professional on being a widow, you know since you still have your wife/husband, then you tell me how I am suppose to just get over it".

I know I probably would go to jail, if someone made the mistake of such comments.

When I called, who I thought was a good friend to tell her I had recently found out that my husband has can we and was given 6mo-1 year to live she listened. For a few minutes. Then, she cut me off while I was in tears because she needed to go to dinner with some friends. I was stunned. She didn't call back. She has been fired.

I'm too tired to figure out if I can edit my post. Auto correct struck again. I meant that my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer.

Some of the comments that I got were:
"Life goes on"
"You can't keep living in the past"

And here is the worst one I got:
"He's dead"

People are so insensitive!!!! They simply don't care about others. The only things they care about are the things that effect them.