The fog is normal. Let yourself wander through it. What else can you do? It feels like the worst thing to happen to us: losing our partners...Do what helps you cope with it as long as it doesn't hurt you or anybody. May God be near you, as he is close to the brokenhearted.
Love and sympathy,
Anita

i feel like in a blank to.. my husband died 3 weeks ago also... and it do feel like a fog.. i pray that it get better i think what helps me is that i work..

Yes, this fog is normal. You will forget stuff and feel like you can't breathe. I once left my car in a parking lot with the doors locked and the key in the ignition with the car running for over 8 hours. I would burst into tears in the most random places. You just have to give into your sorrow. Once day you will find you have moments you don't shed a tear and the periods will get longer. Just remember you still have to take care of yourself, eat, drink and bath on a regular bases ( yes, you will stop caring about person hygiene). As for the phone stop ringing, yes this is also normal. People stop reaching out after awhile. Reach out to a friend if you need to talk some people feel they are bothering you. Keep a journal, it helps.

PCK.....You are still in shock at this stage. My husband passed 10 weeks ago. I am feeling better now...the waves of grief don’t hit as often or last as long. I am able to smile when I think of him. We also went through a long period of cancer, chemo, radiation, return of cancer, surgeries, hospice and the end. That in itself will put you in shock. It is so very hard and I truly understand. It sounds like we traveled down the same road.

I hope the hospice counselor was able to help. It really helped me. Just talking it out helps and he/she can give you some coping skills. They are just a phone call away and should be available to you for at least a year. And it doesn’t cost you anything! So please take advantage of it! There are also grief sharing groups that he/she can help you locate. This helps too.

I also, at first, didn’t care about anything. I felt numb, in a fog, crying at every little thing, unable to eat, unable to sleep, then sleeping 12 hours at a time, just sitting all day doing nothing. Just make yourself do something, anything. Go out for a five minute walk. Go to church. Make a list of things you need to get done and try to do one a day. Study some bible scripture and a daily devotion.

I understand what you are feeling and I care. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending you hugs....Linda

I completely understand. I lost my wife, Lisa, 3 weeks ago yesterday. I finally returned to work, but today was rough. This afternoon, I just had to leave, the feelings just overtook me. I have good moments and bad, and just try to remember all the good times. Our house is very quiet, my wife would talk constantly and sometimes it would get annoying. I would do anything to just hear her voice again. It is a rough journey we have begun. I understand your pain all to well. You are in my thoughts.........

The grief for me comes and goes and i still wonder why i am alive. Its going on 20 months..when i look back i see strides and blessings. I am not sure why we hang onto life but we do so besides killing myself I try to make it through each day and try to see positive things. I know i am helping people so maybe thats why i am in this place now...trying to figure it all out..Life is weird though and all we can do is try and enjoy it . Thats what i am trying to do cause i would rather be happy then sad...( Hugs)