Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I took down the decorations today, just wanted Xmas and New Year gone I suppose. As I packed them away, I thought I might write myself a letter about how I feel now, and what a horrendous year it's been, then next Xmas when I get the decs out again, I hopefully will be able to see how far I've come. Has anybody tried anything like this, who maybe further on in the grief journey? I'm not trying to find a remedy solution for the pain, as there never will be as Ric will never come back, but merely interested to see where I will be at in life.
I did not do exactly as you describe, but when I go back to read my journaling, there is a lot more about daily living and a lot less about my sadness. There was no magic wand at the one year mark that moved my life along. It has taken a long time to get here.
I think one of the hardest things is looking into the void, because of the future plans and dreams that disappeared when we lost our spouse(s). Eventually you will start to make plans, take classes, do other things, etc. whatever you decide.
I think you have a good idea. You will see (down the road) that you have moved along and away from a place that felt so miserable. There is hope.
Prayers,
Shar