Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
My son came by with a friend today and as they were leaving, I always hug my kids but his friend is a real tall guy came over to me a just wrapped me up in the biggest hug. It felt so good .....just to be hugged.
(different kinda hug from your kids hug)
It's the simple things that people take for granted
(different kinda hug from your kids hug)
It's the simple things that people take for granted
I miss Meredith a lot and I do crave her hugs. At this point though still not rushing to fill that hug spot in my life. Each time our daughter hugs me I see her in Kaitlyn. Wow ok this is an emotional topic lol
But my story is different hug. Local (remember I live in rural area) everyone knows everyone and a local guy who lost his wife 3 years ago gives me a hug that almost surrounds me. Says hi how are you doing. I never did like it - he has taken to drinking. Well last hug he propositioned me - about how we need sex etc etc SO next time he tried I flipped his arm off me and said no more
I get lots of hugs from both women and men but it's not the same. And I miss just being able to put my head on his shoulder or feel his arm around me.
I was at a church event today. I received lots of hugs. But then I was sitting talking with someone. A gentleman old enough to be my father - - I'm friendly with both him and his wife - came behind to give me a hug and check on me. For some reason I didn't get out of my seat. He put his arm around me and I kind of leaned into him. He just kind of rubbed my back and massaged my shoulders a minute. It wasn't weird it was comfortable and comforting. And I thought how much I miss that.