Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I find myself sitting here, eyes streaming with tears. I read something that gave me the impulse to go and hug and be hugged by my sweet husband. Argh! Then reality slapped me.... he is no longer here to hug. We were very physically affectionate, always a hug, pat, or kiss when we passed each other. I enjoyed 41 years of his physical presence and now I feel like I'm withering like a plant without sunshine and water. Loneliness is a killer but I do not want to be around people. Sorry, I am rambling and feel I g sorry for myself, but I am also feeling so sorry for all of us on the dreadful path. Thank you all for being my lifeline.
Then time goes by, sometimes so slowly that I could hear my own heart beating and the clock tick, ticking away the time, and sometimes so quickly that I couldn't even catch a glimpse of the sun or the moon and didn't remember how I'd gotten from one place to another.
Soon you'll find a pace, time passing in a cadence that you find comforting and soothing.
Nothing will ever be the same......You MUST make a new normal for you.....In time it will make itself known, you will recognize and find it a friend and not an enemy anymore!
I'm still saddened and feel the tugging at my soul for the loss of the love of my life but with time I will keep moving forward!
Roz
You will begin to like the company of yourself and if your lucky to have a favorite pet, you will love the site of his eyes and beating tail against your legs to show you how much you are loved and thought of!