Think this through carefully. You are so lucky to have a dad, and we only get one real dad in life. Kaaren

Truhal: I feel for you. We're going through this with my father right now as well. He has become very forgetful and very argumentative over the last couple of years. I've talked with my mother about this many times.

Kaaren is right, you need to think about this long and hard before making any decisions.

I don't know your situtation, but you may need to consider a nursing home as some point.

Not because you don't want to care for your father, but for his welfare. My father has reached the point where he gets lost. He still drives, a frightening thought, and has trouble finding his way to places he has gone a thousand times. He forgets where he parks his car and has had to have help finding it. That's just a couple of examples.

If you work, how can you watch him all day? The time may come when you have to consider a nursing home for his safety...... and, sadly, yours.

I would encourage you to visit a few nursing homes in your area and find out if he would be eligible, the cost, etc. it's important you educate yourself regarding all your options before you make a decision.

God bless.

I just pray to God daily that I don't live long enough for this to happen to me.

Whichever you decide in your heart is right for you..............is right......blessings
L

you have to do what is right for you, how much more stress can you handle, it's better to leave on good terms then on bad terms, after all, the tongue is mightier than the sword. Once you say something that you wish you could take back, it's too late and then there are the hurt feelings and even if they forgive the never forget. Know that from my own experience. hugs

Sorry for all you are going through and you do have some very hard choices to make. Please dont take this the wrong way but you have stated your first choice out of two in such a negative light it only leaves one choice. You wouldnt just walk out of your dads life you could still be very involved, and you wouldnt be living a selfish life just because are living apart. Explore other options as mention in other responses such as nursing home, outside help a couple of times a day, check out all financial help from your county and state if you havent already. It may turn out to be healthier and safer for your father. Im not saying dont stay with your father as it may well be the best option but at least give yourself some real choices. I went through this with my parents and watch the toll it took on my mom trying to keep Dad at home.
God Bless Dave

Since I lived with putting my mother in a nursing home and she originally hated me for doing it I know the emotions you're struggling with. First and most important, you have to take care of you. Are you able to cope with what you have? and remember it will probably get worse.

In the beginning my mom was confused. We could deal with that. Then she became very angry and we even tried to deal with that, like you have been The next stage she started hitting us. She would go off and God help the person trying to stop her. She became very irrational and stubborn.

Don't wait as long as we did. My mom didn't even remember hitting us or why or where she wanted to go. We needed her in a safe place. Give it some thought. It's a hard decision. Sharon