I truly understand. Just lost my husband of 43 years unexpectedly in November. He was known as “Superman “ at work so I am having a memorial luncheon for close family and friends on Saturday done in the Superman theme. I don’t know how I am going to go thru with this gathering because I am hurting so much. I do not want to go on without him because he was the love of my life. I just need someone to share my feelings with and I think this might be the website I found by accident. Now I have noticed that my good friend of 15 years is not there for me and I am very resentful of this. I wish I could just disappear for the rest of my life.

Gail, I sent you a private message. You have to log in to get it.
Linda

dear Mikesgirlgail , i will be hitting my 3 year mark in the same month as you. and just want to let you know that you are not alone in continuing to feel devastated. It can be very despairing to read other members describe all kinds of faster healing.
This time of year is especially painful and relentless.
I will send you a short private message, rather than say one thing in forum. private messages do not require either the sender, or the recipient to add each other to friend contacts list in order to be exchanged.
All my best to you,
Barb.

I am so sorry for the pain you ladies are having to endure. I do understand what you are feeling. I lost my grandson to SIDs in 2001 and it put me in a depression tail spin. The holidays are always the worse. It's really true that it is not something you get over, you just learn how to live with it. It's so strange how I can be doing good holding my emotions and then without any warning it hits. I do better when I stay busy. And I try to remember every day to count my many blessings and thank Him for all he has given to me. Praying you ladies will have the opportunity to share the love and the joy of the season to others and it comes back 100 fold to you.

I understand all of this and feel the same way about my husband. I miss him so much it’s unbearable.

My dear sweet ladies, I feel for you all and I totally understand, My wedding anniversary is days away ( 22nd ) and my wonderful wife of 26 years passed away on the 26 of December 2016. I'm not doing so well on not at all!!!

the only thing that helps is to keep yourself occupied. try to put your mind on something else. I too still cry for her almost every day.

I often find myself hiding in the men's room with my face buried in my hands, trying to be silent if anyone comes in. I am so lost without her. As I know all of your are without the one you were going to spend your final days with.

The only thing I can say is that I was truly blessed to have been her husband. I feel honored to be the one she loved.

Even though she was the strong one, she could do everything, she was my rock and It hurts so much everyday without her but I am thankful that I am going though this pain instead of her,

I would not want this for her, so I am resolved and know that I must find the strength to somehow continue on, because that is what she would have wanted.

Bless you ladies one and all you really are so much more than us men! I know that If I can continue on, so can you. I know it hurts and you feel so alone, I know its a struggle, and friends are not much help. But look inside yourself, go out and meet new friends, go to meetups, and experience things you both wanted to do.

Life really is so short. Live it.