Hi Lojogrly....I 2 have lost my husband...November 2016...I live in lower Mich. An would be happy to talk.Not sure how to message,but if you do feel free to contract me.

Hi,
Would love to chat sometime it's sure not easy being alone.
I start work next week hoping that will help.
How are you?

Hi lojogrly. You can message users by going to menu and messages . You can send private messages . Maybe you can exchange phone numbers with people near you

Sorry , hit the profile picture and you will see options for messaging

Hi Laurie,

I lost my husband 4 months ago tomorrow. I am also in Michigan although I live in Traverse City. We were traveling to U of M and he was listed on the lung transplant list there. Unfortunately he spent his last 10 days in the hospital and never received one. He loved the UP and was from Marquette.. I am so sorry for the loss of your love. I remember those first few weeks I felt the same as you, I wanted to lay down and die. I still have days like that but do see some light on some days. I would love to chat with you any time. Hugs to you.

April

April, I too am from Marquette Dan was from Lanse but we lived in Gwinn for many years. Dan had an LVAD which is an artificial heart pump. He never made it on the transplant list.
I'm sorry about your husband.
Laurie

Hi I would love to chat, I’m from Michigan.
Tryed to private message and had trouble.
Nothing happens when I hit profile pic and can’t find menu?
I’m doing something wrong?
Sancan

The profile pic is on the top banner next to the search icon , to the right of the search button. If you select the profile pic, it opens up a variety of options including messaging

Hi Laurie, Glad you found this group. And I'm sorry you needed us. Grief is something you can't comprehend unless you yourself have been through it, doesn't matter what your profession is. Grief goes way beyond clinical diagnosis. We all suffer from broken hearts, a spiritual wound, and at least I can think of no greater pain. Just know whatever you are going through, we all can relate. No matter what, just remember that it takes time, time and more time. There is no fast road to recovery, but there is recovery for all of us. Take care of yourself, that is important. Learn to roll with the punches for everything else. Scottie

Thanks Scottie, that's the hardest part. I want to heal now, I don't want to feel now. Dan always said I was a yesterday girl.
Everything I used to enjoy I enjoy nothing now.
Thank you for sharing.

Dear Laurie,
I am so sorry for your lost. I understand how you are feeling since I too lost my husband last Dec before Xmas. Take one day at a time and try to keep yourself busy. I also found that if I can close the door in my mind and not think of him. or us or our life together and focus on something else. I can then try to keep going.It is hard but this helps. Diane

I remember how empty those first weeks and months were. It sounds like you Michigan ladies are becoming a support group! That is so good. It is difficult to be alone and friends really help. I urge you to get together, even though sometimes it is hard to motivate yourself when the time actually comes to get up and go somewhere.
I used to ask God to take me too. It has been many years since my Rick passed. It took a while, but now I am glad God didn't listen to me in that respect. I will be praying for you.